Clare’s Law

[charlielou90]

Hey, please no nasty comments, I’m asking for advice, I did a Clare’s law on my daughters father, as one of his ex’s told me to. I didn’t think anything of it. But obviously went through it. And just now I’ve had been to the disclosure information with the PC! And oh my god I burst into tears hearing everything that was told! He’s never once lay his hands on me, or even been horrible, he does raise his voice though. But what I just told I’m in so much shock! But when I asked for it on email or sent to me by post she said I’m so sorry I can’t do that due to the information that has been told and Incase I share it. Which I never would knowing how dangerous he now is!! But how do people actually get the information as proof?? I wanted to show my mum so she’s knows everything. My house has now been put on priority for the police to come if he was to ever come to mine with a weapon!!
I’m so upset and shocked.
The PC officer I was talking to said I wouldn’t even mention to him you’ve done a Clare’s law because of how dangerous he is you never know what could happen. So I said I agree I will NOT tell him.
Anyone been in this situation? X

I'm glad we could help you :)

When was the last time you heard from him?

Does he know where you work or hang out? Are you financially dependent on him in any way?

He sounds so incredibly dangerous that I would actually advise you and DD to leave your residence sooner rather than later and stay where he can't find you. Once you are physically safe, you should not block him (because you want to know what he's up to) but you should not respond to ANYthing he says. You may then face him trying to get to you via the law with DD, so you will need to get legal advice too.

But first, see your mother and call women's aid.

About 3 weeks when he wanted me to take his expensive coat to the dry cleaners.

no I don’t rely on him like that. And no I don’t really have friends to hang out with lol.

if only you guys knew how dangerous he was and what he’s actually done! It’s crazy!

he does know where I work, but I won’t be going back their yet.

luckily I do have a ring door bell, and many locks in side my front door so there no way he could get in.

there are so many things adding up now thinking deeper into things.

and yes I will definitely will! X

It sounds like he might think he's due a visit. Your earlier post suggested that he comes around a fair bit, so you'd better prepare yourself for that.

"luckily I do have a ring door bell, and many locks in side my front door so there no way he could get in."

That's good. But he could hang around waiting for you to leave the building, or get to you when you're shopping, or walking in the park with DD. He likely knows your habits and how to find you.

Anyway, you still have some time to think about all this and figure out a plan of action. As long as he doesn't know you know, you're still safe(ish).