Page 3 | Wife hit me, unsure on how to proceed.

Random3932 · 2025-10-28T19:35:30+00:00

Will keep this very short. My wife has never been aggressive to me in the six years we have been married, nor I to her. Yesterday we were playing a game and in the course of joking around (with her, with her laughing), I knocked over something she had built in the game. She suddenly slapped me, pretty hard. It was an aggressive slap. No alcohol was consumed by either of us, no drugs etc... This was just out of the blue, I left and spent the night at a friend's - haven't been back since. Haven't disclosed the reason why to anyone. Would appreciate some perspectives on this. Will leave it at that. Thanks.

Outnumbered1983 · 29/10/2025 19:14

Your wife Slapping you is completely out of order and shouldn’t be minimised. I think you did the right thing by leaving and making it clear you’re hurt and upset by the situation.

has your wife’s behaviour changed at all recently? Any external stressors or hormonal changes? And just to be clear, I am not asking this to minimise or condone - violence is unacceptable.

TessSaysYes · 29/10/2025 21:43

Are you a same sex Marriage, or are you a male?
Of course it doesn't change the gravity of what has happened! But context is helpful?

TwinklyStork · 30/10/2025 08:55

TessSaysYes · 29/10/2025 21:43

Are you a same sex Marriage, or are you a male?
Of course it doesn't change the gravity of what has happened! But context is helpful?

Why?
Is it worse when the party being slapped is another woman?
I don’t see how “context” is in any way helpful unless to minimise the impact of a man being subjected to DV.

orangeblosssom · 30/10/2025 08:57

I’d be leaving

Susan7654 · 30/10/2025 09:30

I am suprised at all reactions. They were in a "game mode" having fun beeing competitive. The sudden slapin that context is just her competitive emotions taking over. Its bad, yes. But if it was once off and she appologized, than I would not be offended.
If the context was- slap during argument - than its bad, really bad.

It was a game. High happy emotions and laugh. I totally dont understand all reactions to leave your wife and take it too seruiously. 6 years of great relationship and once emotions override during a play and you take so much offence? Really?

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 30/10/2025 09:35

FenywHysbys · 29/10/2025 12:41

Double standards - if this were a wife posting that their husband had slapped them, it would be ‘ltb’ all the way.

there is no excuse - no medical emergency - no ‘I just forgot myself’. It’s domestic violence.

Ive clearly missed where it says op is male????

Dawninglory · 30/10/2025 09:46

If it is totally out of character Op, I would be concerned too. Peri/menopausal symptoms can cause this, I went from 0 - 1000😡 and few times before I realised I was in the menopause! Also brain conditions can cause violent outbursts. I know you're upset about it but it may the cause. Investigate before divorcing her!

AllTheseYears · 30/10/2025 10:58

Dawninglory · 30/10/2025 09:46

If it is totally out of character Op, I would be concerned too. Peri/menopausal symptoms can cause this, I went from 0 - 1000😡 and few times before I realised I was in the menopause! Also brain conditions can cause violent outbursts. I know you're upset about it but it may the cause. Investigate before divorcing her!

What the hell? Peri menopause doesn’t mean you can’t stop yourself from hitting people. It’s a choice to hit someone, regardless of how you’re feeling due to peri menopausal hormones.

Itstimetoquit · 31/10/2025 11:56

You leave her immediately,nothing she says can take it back! If u had hit her u would probably be in a cell,it's not acceptable under any circumstances.

DelphiniumBlue · 31/10/2025 12:19

Sounds like her behaviour was a reaction to the OPs physical behaviour, deliberately knocking over something she had built. Whilst of course she shouldn’t have slapped him, he was clearly pushing for a reaction. She thought the “game “ had gone too far. I’m aware that most people will disagree with me, but I don’t think that that this is necessarily the end of the marriage unless OP wants it to be. His response has made it clear that her behaviour was unacceptable and that a repeat would be a deal breaker. He also needs to discuss with her how his behaviour was not ok either. I’m not saying it was his fault that she slapped him, but as separate issue, destroying something someone else has made is not funny.

FenywHysbys · 31/10/2025 12:21

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 30/10/2025 09:35

Ive clearly missed where it says op is male????

Show quote history

Thats you being disingenuous… don’t single me out, when others are saying the same thing on here…

KeepAwayFromChildren · 31/10/2025 12:25

DelphiniumBlue · 31/10/2025 12:19

Sounds like her behaviour was a reaction to the OPs physical behaviour, deliberately knocking over something she had built. Whilst of course she shouldn’t have slapped him, he was clearly pushing for a reaction. She thought the “game “ had gone too far. I’m aware that most people will disagree with me, but I don’t think that that this is necessarily the end of the marriage unless OP wants it to be. His response has made it clear that her behaviour was unacceptable and that a repeat would be a deal breaker. He also needs to discuss with her how his behaviour was not ok either. I’m not saying it was his fault that she slapped him, but as separate issue, destroying something someone else has made is not funny.

He didn't deliberately knock it over. Stop making up detail to make the male in this look bad.

Dontcallmescarface · 31/10/2025 12:26

Sounds like her behaviour was a reaction to the OPs physical behaviour, deliberately knocking over something she had built. The Op didn't say it was deliberate, it could just as easily been accidental whilst they were messing about.

From the OP: Yesterday we were playing a game and in the course of joking around (with her, with her laughing), I knocked over something she had built in the game

SpottyAardvark · 31/10/2025 12:36

Assuming OP is a man, the double standards in these replies are as pathetic as they are unsurprising. MN is the home of double standards & anti-male sexism.

AnneLovesGilbert · 31/10/2025 14:33

DelphiniumBlue · 31/10/2025 12:19

Sounds like her behaviour was a reaction to the OPs physical behaviour, deliberately knocking over something she had built. Whilst of course she shouldn’t have slapped him, he was clearly pushing for a reaction. She thought the “game “ had gone too far. I’m aware that most people will disagree with me, but I don’t think that that this is necessarily the end of the marriage unless OP wants it to be. His response has made it clear that her behaviour was unacceptable and that a repeat would be a deal breaker. He also needs to discuss with her how his behaviour was not ok either. I’m not saying it was his fault that she slapped him, but as separate issue, destroying something someone else has made is not funny.

I’m not saying it was his fault that she slapped him

Yes you are.