marriage issue about sex thoughts outside the marriage

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Im 42M years old and Im married with my wife 52F for many many years. But as the time passing by I have more and thoughts about having intercourse with a woman besides my wife. In general I dont think I believe in infedelity but I have been faithfull cause I love my wife. I have discuss this many times with her and understands it but she also said if you do it you will not touch me again. I think what afdraid most is hpv but mostly to tranmitt hpv to my wife. Im not proud of it but I think this is the strongest reason that I havent ''cheat'' until now.
Im trying to think reasonably about why I need this so much? And I cant find many reasonables answers about doing it but I can also find reasonables answers aabout not doing it.
I dont think that its only about ''you'' and ''her'' or ''him'', its how we grow, its the traumas we carry, its our idiosyncracy, its our societies culture.
And the best way to deal with that need is to supressing it by watching porn occationaly.
Ho to deal with that? Any advice? Have you been in a similar situation?
Im looking for a marital advice.

Marital advice- do not have sex with someone that isn’t your spouse. Hope that helps :)

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Well Im looking for a more advanced answer cause Im dealing with it my entire life so ''dont have sex'' it doesnt really mean anything.

But it really is that simple. If you want to keep your marriage, don’t have sex with someone else. If the desire to do so is stronger than your commitment to your wife, be honest so you can separate. There is no excuse for cheating.

I dont think you understand. Saying to someone just separate doesnt mean anything. It is my life and my marriage. Read carefully what I have written please and if you have something valuable to add please do. And secondly as I wrote in my post I dont believe in cheating. Dont project your own beliefs to me. It means zero to me. Simple as that.

Then don’t cheat. It really is that simple, I’m afraid.

You’re right, I don’t understand. What are you asking?

If you must have sex with someone else wear a condom!!

Maybe don't come on to a predominantly female forum to ask other women to give you permission to cheat on your wife. Fuck on over to Reddit, I'm sure they'll be plenty of people there who will tell you it's okay.

Your wife is not in agreement so what else do you want us to say?

Advice - if you don’t want a divorce don’t have sex with other women or men. It’s not about sex it’s about emotions for women. Get yourself educated

She's clear about her boundaries. If you choose to fuck someone else, you'll be choosing to end your marriage.

It's normal to think about other people. It doesn't mean you have to do anything about it.

Im afraid its not that simple at all. You call it cheat. But for doing sex with another person is not cheating.

Eh

What emotions for women? What are you even talking about? You are very confuse.

I knew that making a post here will be a mistake. You are just projecting your own beliefs and opinions. Bye bye

There is no more advanced answer. If you value your relationship with your wife and want to stay married, then keep your dick in your pants.

If you don't value your wife and your marriage and are happy to split up, then go ahead and have sex with someone else.

There is no magic third option.

Cya

Don’t let the door hit your arse on the way out. Good luck with your marriage.

You sound like a PEACH.

My advice is leave your wife and have all the intercourse 😆 you like. Hopefully your wife will meet someone better.

Maybe your wife could have sex with someone else too?? Make a cheating agreement after all sauce for the goose , sauce for the gander!

Are you for real ??

Perhaps you think that having intercourse with a prostitute would not be cheating? Having sex with someone whose name you won’t need, a woman you’ll never see again? Perhaps that isn’t being unfaithful, it’s just a transaction, it will keep your dick happy and you won’t feel guilt or shame? You won’t need to end your marriage because you haven’t been unfaithful?

Maybe consider how you’d feel if your wife chose to have intercourse with other men on the same terms. Do you think you’d understand that she wasn’t being unfaithful?

I think you’re just another stupid man with his brains in his pants, and your wife would be better getting you permanently out of her life.

It’s also your spouse’s life, not just yours. Rather than being critical of the advice you’ve been given, I suggest you pay to see a therapist.

Ciao sweetie 😘