marriage issue about sex thoughts outside the marriage

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Im 42M years old and Im married with my wife 52F for many many years. But as the time passing by I have more and thoughts about having intercourse with a woman besides my wife. In general I dont think I believe in infedelity but I have been faithfull cause I love my wife. I have discuss this many times with her and understands it but she also said if you do it you will not touch me again. I think what afdraid most is hpv but mostly to tranmitt hpv to my wife. Im not proud of it but I think this is the strongest reason that I havent ''cheat'' until now.
Im trying to think reasonably about why I need this so much? And I cant find many reasonables answers about doing it but I can also find reasonables answers aabout not doing it.
I dont think that its only about ''you'' and ''her'' or ''him'', its how we grow, its the traumas we carry, its our idiosyncracy, its our societies culture.
And the best way to deal with that need is to supressing it by watching porn occationaly.
Ho to deal with that? Any advice? Have you been in a similar situation?
Im looking for a marital advice.

I agree with all the above
if you want to throw any all those years of marriage and commitment
laughs and companionship
for a extramarital shag
none of us can help you
hope you’ve got a good lawyer

Moron! 😂

Is it cheating if your wife decides to have sex with other men? And are you happy for her to do that?

You say it’s your culture, is it your wife’s culture too?

Weird post

Have sex with someone else that's what you want to hear. Can't be arsed your poor wife.

If you are genuinely concerned about keeping it in your pants, that is something you should go over with a therapist. Not sure what input you expect from a predominantly female audience here tbh.

If you love your wife as much as you say then you will be consumed with guilt so it will change your relationship unequivocally.

OP you sound like a dick HTH.

Eh? Are you on glue? Doing sex with another person when your wife does not agree is not cheating??? WTF

There's really no problem to solve here on account of:

1. If there's any danger you are a grown man in his 40s it's very unlikely you'll find many willing females for your fantasy intercourse. You clearly don't have the personality, or an ounce of charm, necessary.
2. The most likely option, you're 13 and a very naughty boy!

Got to love the school holiday

Gross. Piss off.
Who calls it ‘intercourse’??

Jesus I never thought about the school holiday
get on your Xbox now !
and stop writing weird posts

Look at your wife.
Do you want your marriage to end?
If yes then just end it and after divorce then go find someone else.
If you do not want your marriage to end then do not sleep with someone else.

Its not rocket science.

It will cause a huge amount of pain and heartache. Trust me when I say that is the type of pain you would not wish upon your worst enemy so why bring that pain to your wife.

Honestly just talking to her about it, regardless of what she says, would have caused pain and very unpleasant thoughts for your wife.

Apologies now to her. Make sure she knows she is who you want.

Go get therapy. Seek professional help.

You made a vow when you married your wife. You did not sign up for a practice marriage, but a lifetime commitment. I feel for your wife, having read all your posts. She is not your convenience, which is how you appear to be treating her. Live up to your commitment.

Says it all perfectly.

So you have needs your wife does not meet and you want to know how to deal them?

1.) talk to your wife
2.) wank
3.) leave her and explore as a single man.
Option 1 to start, with liberal sprinkling of 2.)

This is an excellent point the idiotic OP won’t acknowledge. He tells us he can’t/wont leave his wife and says that sex with other women isn’t cheating. Bizarre little man.

It's half term

Man arrives on predominantly female forum, seeks validation for cheating on his wife, doesn’t get it, leaves in a strop. 😂