I'm living between cities at the moment due to my dh having a job offer in Asia which still hasn't been confirmed and we're really sitting between chairs. On top of that I'm also 5 months pregnant and still have my 2 cats in our London house. My Mum has been sitting the house for 2 months but when we got married she and my Dad flew out to Asia for a week and left the cats behind. Our cleaner comes twice a week and pops in every day to put food out and check on water & cat litter for them but one WE they would have been left to their own devices and so I asked a former colleague who I've grown close to to drop by and check up on them if she could. If she wouldn't have the time I'd arrange for a professional cat sitter to come in for that WE.
She agreed and I was so overjoyed...how stupid of me.
When my parents got back before I did our neighbours said 2 (!) people had been in the house staying over and collecting a parking fine. Our cleaners said there were two bottles of champagne and wine in the bin plus cigarette packs and cig butts. Glasses and a dirty ash tray stood in the sink for them to clean. Someone had slept in the master bedroom and gone through our side drawers.
I asked my friend if it was her and she said yes, she's brought her latest squeeze over, they'd had a few bottles but left later. I asked if she stayed over but she denied it.
After carefully listening to neighbours and cleaners I was livid. My dh and I have shot guns, knives and ammunition in the house, sure, it's locked away, but ornamental daggers, etc. are there, too. Expensive decorations and all our documents, etc. are in the house as well. I'm still livid how she could do this to me and why did she lie?
I don't even know her date apart from seeing him once.
I sent a mail to her because I didn't want to get into a discussion and told her how sad I feel that she's abused the trust I put in r and how disrespectful of her to do this and then lie to me. It's not only my stuff in er, but also DH's and he's fuming. I told her how upset I was and how sad.
She came back all nasty saying what it mattered to me it was only a few bottles of wine and champers and it's not like we didn't have any. (DH collects them and lays them down to mature, it was a vintage champagne and a 94 wine worth over 200 Pound each). And that she aired the house and it was only a few fags but she didn't stay over. And that I've lost a friend for being so arrogant and difficult.
Was I unreasonable to be upset and angry at her behaviour? How would you feel if you were in my situation?