Finishing it with DP today

[Ulysees]

I say dp although we've only been together 10 weeks.
I'll be honest I feel a bit of a failure as since I left my dh a year and a half ago I've had 4 relationships the first one did last a year and was long distance. The others, including this one have been guys I met on a dating site. I'm still friends with them all, including dh.
I've learnt from these though and one thing I won't be doing is introducing the boys to anyone I date in future. And dating is going to be a long process as this guy has taken over my life. Not blaming him it's my fault too. He has lots of problems and I've been feeling sorry for him but have realised I'm too unhappy to go on. I doubt he and I will remain friends so I'll be breaking my run but I can't go on like this.
Wish me luck

Good luck

Good luck.

Good luck. You're making the right decision if you're already unhappy after ten weeks. Don't feel guilty about it, if it's not right between you you're doing a good thing by letting him go and get on with his life.

Good luck - it will be difficult but it sounds like you'll feel liberated afterwards.

Good luck Ulysees, sounds like you know you've made the right decision, it's just the sadness and unpleasantness of having to do it now....

Good luck.

thanks all. I know he'll cry. He's really emotional and messed up. I do pick em!

Don't let him sway you though, be strong!

oh he will try Fanella, the old woe is me cry. My mate on msn and in RL just said the same words as you.

Sounds like you're doing the right thing and you two are just not suited to each other. Be strong and remember that you are not responsible for his problems or for 'helping' him.

hope it goes ok, its best for you, and thats what you need to concentrate on, even if its upsetting.

I really hope it goes ok - you could try giving yourself a mantra: "I'm doing the right thing, this is best for me" etc etc.

Years back I decided to leave ex-p and he managed to persuade me to stay. Biggest mistake I ever made. A couple of years later I was unceremoniously dumped by him and left in mountains of debt. Wish I'd gone while the going was good...

thanks all again.I'm quite scared to be honest. He's trained in martial arts and I'm scared this'll push him over the edge. I didn't realise how scared I was until I just spoke to my mate on msn. You hear of so many women being killed by ex's He's big too.

god, sounds rough ulysees, maybe, you should not say it to his face if you are scared. allvery well feeling for him, and that you will let him down etc, but tbh this sucks, if you really do feel scared.

Can soemone be with you if you meet him and do it, or be in the next room, or in a bar??

Take someone with you then, even if they're just hanging around outside. Or arrange to meet him somewhere public.

Definitely making the right decision if you're scared of what he might do!
Why not tell him in a public place and then make sure you stay with friends/family or have someone with you for a bit till it blows over

Remember that you are in control of the situation though. You are finishing with him, make sure you feel in control and give off the right body language of being in control and having made your decision. Be kind but firm. And keep it short, there is no need to get drawn into a two hour discussion over the relationswhip or your feelings or anything. Meet in a public place, for coffee or something, and then he won't be able to make a scene and you can leave when you want.

Good luck. I'm sure it will be fine.

Good luck.

He's here in bed as he's been on nights. I thought it best to wait until he's had some sleep. I know I'm crazy and it's all gone way too fast. I've always thought women like me were mad but I think we're just too soft.

If you're frightened of how he will react you should do it in a public place.

Maybe suggest going out for lunch?

Agree with Paddlechick.
Tell him in a public place.
If you're worried he may get aggressive, you could even send him home first, then telephone him with the news.
Don't put yourself at any risk whatsoever.

It went well thanks I forgot how sensitive and gentle he is think I'd built something up in my head. My dad was a big guy with a raging temper and I think it was his reaction I was imagining rather than dp's.
Weird how your mind works?
Anyway we talked and I cried and got loads out. He said why hadn't I told him this and I told him I couldn't as he's hard to talk to about problems. I felt the emotional wreck whilst he was the calm one.
So, we're going to step back and see what happens.

I'm glad it went OK, Ulysees.
It must have been tough, but well done for being upfront with him.

thanks HC and everyone else

really glad it went well.

funny how things turn out sometimes eh?

hope you guys have a good friendship going forward whatever happens.