If you wanted to have sex (not with DH/DP) in the next month, could you?

[SecretLife]

Strange question, I know, but the "have I fallen for the oldest trick" thread got me thinking...

If you decided that you wanted a 'fling' within the next month, would you be able to do it?

By that I mean:

• is your life so predictable that it would be impossible to 'create' an evening/night out without your DH/DP being suspicious?
• do you have 'cover' i.e. friends your DH doesn't know, that you could pretend to be with?
• do you have friends/ex-lovers etc who would be instantly up for it if you made it clear you were interested?

I don't really mean, could you go out to a club, get completely rat-arsed and go home with the first bloke who'd have you - I mean something much more calculated and planned than that.

And I guess the other question would be
"And have you?"

I don't want to get into a discussion about the morals of such behaviour - it's clearly wrong - it's just I have a suspicion that more women are adulterous than perhaps is realised?

How'd you guess??????

Yes, yes and yes...
I coud easily find the time and location without DH noticing or knowing it. I would have a 'partner' at the ready (more than one actually) and DH would never suspect, know or anything unless the other man was to tell him.
I nearly did it because Dh wasn't showing any interest in me but now I wouldn't do it. I dodn't know what will happen in the future. I wouldn't regret it probably but it would have to be an absolute one off event. hence you need a very, very trustworthy 'partner' in crime.
saying that, this is my thinking on before the potential event, I might feel totally different if I was to do it. You'd have to be very clinical about it all if you don't want to create trouble.

a. it is very easy to make create a night out.
b. you don't always have to arrange cover if it is easy to do the above.
c. I doubt it these days.

Have I? yes, I did once. Albeit in an innocent way (no action, just lots of talks and holding of hands as it wasn't lust for us). The repercussions are still bouncing off the walls for everyone involved. It isn't a flippant decision to make - the fallout can be very extreme, even if you see it as a fling.

I can keep a secret!! just thought I'd let you know

I barely have time to have sex with dh, much less anyone else.

I have tried to start a bar and this thread is not helping, to be quite frank, please stop now and join me in my bar which is quite hilarious. I have to go to bed v soon. Please humour me.

i will join you sykes, where is it?

Sorry to be a killjoy - but secretlife sounds suspiciously like a journalist doing research for a feature... what with the perfect spelling and the lack of personal info. Sorry if I'm wrong...