So 7 months on, I still can’t process the break up.
I had been single for 5 years raising my Son on my own after his Dad left when I was pregnant.
Then in 2023 I met this wondeful man, who lived 30 miles away… After 18 months we decided we would move in together, he had two boys and I had one, we all got on so well, and his family were lovely and so welcoming.
We put a deposit on a 4 bed house, I sold mine, he was going through a long divorce and had sold his house, she wass getting 60% he was hetting 40%, soething didn’t add up, he said he only had £6k to put in the house, I was selling my £240k paid off home and putting it all in. Anyway, further down the line, he was at mine, I found a mortgage statement from the dale of his house, he got £20k, he said he had to pay his Dad what he owed him etc but tehre was still £10k unaccounted, he said he had a large overdraft he needed to clear, it would have been fine if he told me the truth, I asked him if he had any debts and he said no.
Later on he said he was embarrased to tell me.
Subsequently I pulled out of the house, this was in the November.
I had one too many one night and called him a Tinder Swindler.
In the New Year, I felt he was getting distant, not so many weekends together, he was staying at his parents whilst he was purchasing a flat.
I asked him to go away with me and he said he couldn’t afford him and his two boys, I said just come away with me and my boy then as your boys are always away with their mum and new fella, he went up the wall, said he wanted us all to go or not at all.
Also, he took on extra football trainign which were our date nights, I think I had a jab as I felt the distance.
And these are the excuses he used to as why we finished officially at the end of Feb.
Throughout the Months I often goit angry messages, emotianally loaded saying it was all my fault and I destroyed us.
In July he messaged me, we went on a date, it was so beautiful… However in the week, I was out and about bike riding, living my life whilst I assume he was home scrolling, and I apporached the subject of my Son being upset as he saw his name in my phone, he said I’m going to bed. I sarcastly said “goodnight” and he said if I’d of waited 5 mons I would have got a fucking goodnight. Well we didn’t see eachother again afterthat.
In July, we were at Oasis seperately, I messaged saying have a good one, he was online but ignored my message this was a Saturday.
On the following Tuesday, I had another emotionally loaded message from him, I said this abuse stps here.
Later that day, my noiece tagged me in a post on facebook, someone had exposed him on the “are we dating the same guy” group.
I let him know, he said he had one date. This woman had been ghosted by him, I presume had a date on the Sunday. Other women came forward and it seems he was dating from March but intense messaging, date then ghost.
We haven’t spoke since, I sent a message last week hoping for reconcilliation, he came back with, basically all my fault, I’m nasty, bitter and it was me that split us up.
I know he’s still hurt.
Since last week, he’s now tutned his visibility on whatsapp on (mines off) nad he has unblocked me on messenger.
What does this say?
His flat fell through so he’s in rented accomodation now with his two boys.
I want my blended family back, I can’t move on and I know deep down he wants it too.
I cant think of anything else, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep.
and my 6 year old boy misses them all.