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Do any women write prescriptive dating profile requirements like men do?

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Lilington · 15/10/2025 09:22

Having seen the shopping list of male requirements (always regarding looks) for their potential “date” I wonder if any women do the same?

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Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 17/10/2025 18:00

My experience of OLD has been from friends who've done it. But I've never forgotten one friend who specified man must be a non smoker. She would then reject any man who was an ex smoker, no matter how long ago he'd given up, because, she said, it showed he might take it up again!

She was an ex smoker herself! It rather baffled me, I must admit.

But then I'm a lover of short men, so what do I know...

ZlaMavka · 17/10/2025 18:07

TwistedWonder · 15/10/2025 11:47

Agree - I remember clearly a man called Barry in his late 70s messaging me - I was 56/57. It wasn’t just he was about my parents age, he was also several inches shorter than me and resembled a gnome. He was very offended by a polite no and called me an ageist bitch and he hopes I still single forever with my attitude.
I just replied with a 👍

I also had an extremely overweight (as in 30 stone) black guy reported me for racism for stating he wasn’t what I was looking for and called me a fucking racist bitch with white privilege- no mate your skin colour is the least of it

Edited

This is interesting. Many years ago, I got matched with a black guy, and his profile was basically, "No, I'm not gangsta; no I'm not "from the hood"; no I'm not into women looking for "BBC" [I had to look it up]. I'm just a boring bloke who works in an office."
I didn't contact him because he was so boring, but I felt sad for him that he had to make it clear that he wasn't some sort of 'rough guy' fantasy for a certain type of woman.

GlassFanBan · 17/10/2025 19:03

I think the height thing is ridiculous (to an extent really), because basically people will just say 6ft and above and anyone 1 or 2 inches less is not good enough.

I don't understand the "love Sunday roasts". Where did this come from? Same with the "I'm 50, not 40 but don't know how to change it".

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