Do any women write prescriptive dating profile requirements like men do?

[Lilington]

Having seen the shopping list of male requirements (always regarding looks) for their potential “date” I wonder if any women do the same?

Barry the gnome didn't have a brother to and from whom he was always passing and receiving things, did he?

Sure, they deserve a chance - to make the effort to give up a dirty, expensive addiction that will kill them early before they can eventually quite legitimately respond to people stating 'non-smokers only'.

I don't think a lot of smokers realise just how horrible and noticeable the stink is, as they've become inured to it.

Apart from being found attractive! Which is why I like it. Finding my partner attractive is very important to me

Ditto. I’d say 90% of the men on OLD stated that was their perfect Sunday and yet I don’t think Ive ever met someone in RL who does anything of the sort. It’s a huge no thanks from me

I’ve never been on a dating app (married before they were a thing) but I’d think maybe a list of bullet points of non- negotiables would help everyone?

Agree. I’m physically attracted to what I would call lumps - tall broad shoulders a rugby player type build.
I certainly don’t need rescuing but that’s just the physical build that gets my attention.

I would have said I’m not racist I’m fattist!

That’s quite common to find on female profiles I believe (for at least people in their 20s according to my mates), so it’s probably mirroring that.

See also the now custom man with dog photo, that became popular.

These are men 50+ and I’m not sure I believe most of them.

Call me a cynic but I’d imagine their real perfect Sundays involve a full english and sky sports

Biological attraction is based on a combination of physical factors. If the world's hottest man got hit by a shrink ray and was now only 5'4", he wouldn't suddenly become completely unappealing.

I'm sure many men prefer shorter women, but if a man turned down a woman just for being tall we'd think he was a superficial twat. Same for breast size etc.

Some women prefer taller men. I won't date shorter men. Dated one guy same height. Just felt weird. Not bothered if they're not 6ft as long as they're taller.

Just deleted mine but this was mine.

Sharing life with my two older kids, but still have plenty of room for the right man. Looking for someone kind, caring, and a little adventurous. DIY skills = extra attractive (I break, you fix 😏). Love spontaneous plans, cosy nights in, and men who can lead without being controlling.

Then on the hoping you are.
Are a family man, likes spontaneous trips to eu, theatre shows, crazy golf, are happy to do snowboarding lessons, own your own home and down for a laugh and can arrange the dates.

Anyways i attracted men that earnt well and the one i am happily dating picks me up despite me having a car and licence brings me flowers every time and arranged and pays for the dates. Honestly hes fab.

So i was looking for someone who earnt same as me or more own home car and can lead basically but isnt controlling. I seem to have found what i was looking for why should i not have who i want. Id rather stay single if they dont have the attributes i am looking for

I think if a man didn’t find a woman sexually attractive because of her height or breast size that’s absolutely fine! We can’t all fancy everyone we meet (nor would we want to!!). What would make him a twat would be telling her the reason. But there’s no need to.

same as if I had a dating profile I would be looking for someone with characteristics I find attractive (including height) but I wouldn’t spell that out, I just would be selective with swiping.

My only stipulation was that I didn't want to spend my weekends on the sofa, as I am a very active person, so if exercise and hiking aren't your thing, we aren't going to be a match.

Yeah, loads of men moaned about it. And from a recent thread on here, women moan if a man says similar too.

Agree on the whole, but many women seem to make height an absolute requirement.

The shrink ray was really painful, but I'm recovering well....

I agree with you. I’m tall but I think stipululating you want a man above x is a bit ick and superficial. Like saying you want a feminine woman. That would put me off

I didn't.

I wanted a man who can match me intellectually. So had I applied filters, he'd have fallen through the net, because he lacks formal qualifications, even standard GCSEs, and I would probably have gone with "must be university-educated" or similar. That would have excluded him. As it happened, he was perfectly able to hold my pace and depth of conversation, and the breadth of topics discussed, both in writing and face to face.

I am pretty open to all sorts of body shapes, but have never found very thin men attractive. This one was an exception. Had I applied filters, his profile would not have shown up for me. And I feel like a hormonal teenager around him.

I had a very long list of criteria, including must not own a dog, must drive, must not want children, must not smoke and many more. I discounted dozens on first sight of their profile. I discounted dozens more after 1 or 2 lines of conversation. I discounted dozens on voice messages on their profiles. This one stuck. And he is, genuinely, the man of my dreams (and I appear to be the woman of his own dreams).

I dunno. I think its a sex thing. Women like being thrown about the bedroom and a man whose bigger and stronger helps.

I've seen so many men put the 'long walk follwed by a roast' thing that I thought it was code for something. Do women write that on their profiles?

I’m 5ft7 and I worked out if men say they’re 6ft plus they’ll be taller than me. 5ft9-5ft10 probably same height and shorter if they say 5ft7 😂

I never had any lists on my profile and didn’t rule out men on height but I thought it was interesting that it was frequently lied about. I think women are more likely to lie about age. When I was 28 I’d say I was 26, which sounds so silly now.

I love a strong man in the bedroom

Ahh love this for you. What app did you use. Im done with bumble because the location thing is driving me nuts. Now I dont even read i jist scroll down and all the great men seem hundreds of miles away.
I see what you mean about filters but we need some otherwise its carnage

When you're pretty ruthless (and I was) it's not too bad.

I used Hinge. I swiped left on most profiles, because they didn't meet my criteria. I only contacted a handfull myself. Out of the ones that contacted me, 90% went straight in the bin, because nothing meaningful was said in the opening line. My profile was interesting and with lots of possible conversation hooks, so a "nice eyes" just didn't cut it. I cut it down to 5 coversations, which made it off the app, and 3 people I actually met IRL.

One was just after sex, so got given the boot after date 2. One was too late, but we met up as friends later. One was my dream man. He had been on the app a week or so. I had been there a month. We talked for less than 2 weeks before we met up. We both paused the app after date 1 and deleted it on date 3.

In terms of distance, I allowed just over an hour's drive. Anything more would have been unrealistic with the life I lead.

When I did OLD I didn't specifically write a list in the profile, just filtered out the matches myself.

When I saw a male profile with a long list of requirements I'd just think they were quite up themselves move on.

As far as my experience with OLD goes, it's good for hook ups and not much else.

From experience, it's mainly women who write this way (height focused, tall dark and handsome)

It's very rare men who are actually grown up would write this well, because society tells us its okay for a 5ft 1 woman to say she wants a 6ft men and yet it's wrong for a 6ft men to say he wants a woman over 5ft 10 or generally for men to even dare day they want a woman who is physically fit, race, weight etc.