Bit tmi but would this offend anyone else?

[MangoMangoMangoMango]

Would this offend anyone else don't know if im being silly it's a sex one and a bit tmi so feel free to scroll past. When I met my partner he use to go down on me a lot I mean like all the time, he seemed to really love it and would always do it. Anyway as time went on he completely stopped, I didn't really read too much into it and thought maybe he just didn't want to do it anymore. I never mentioned anything about it as personally if someone doesn't want to do it I'm not going to pressure them so I just didn't mention it again. Anyway we split up then got back together and in that time he told me he slept with other people (I was fine with that as we split up quite a while so like almost a year didn't expect him not to although I didn't myself) anyway for some strange reason he decided to tell me one of the women didn't really want to sleep with him so he offered to go down on her then she did! I mean am I wrong to feel a bit off about this? Especially since he stopped doing it to me? Find it hard not to take it personally as I assumed he just didn't do it anymore but did it to someone else 🤔 would anyone else feel offended by this or not? Someone said maybe my “ph was off” once so it put him off but I shower every day and make sure I’m fresh but obviously it was personal as I assumed he just stopped doing it in general but no just with me.

You shouldn’t ask strangers, just ask him as only he knows!

He gets most of his pleasure by doing stuff to please you, you by doing stuff to please him. I’m sure you’ve discovered by now that’s how sex really works. If you want something, ask for it!

That.
Ask him why.

As other commenters said, you should just speak to him and ask.

If you want to know ask him, but the way you talk about him I wonder why you are back with him.

You can’t assume the reason he stopped. He may have got a vibe that you weren’t really into it. Best to be clear what you like and not depend on him being a mind reader.

Honestly I think it's TMI that he has told you all this!! Is he trying to make you jealous or something? I once had a guy who I very briefly dated start showing me naked pictures of other women he had been with, I get that feeling off your fella.

He sounds like a idiot tbh i would send him back to being a ex and leave him their

If my current partner told me what he did with an ex in detail he’d be an ex himself

@MangoMangoMangoMango This isn’t. You this is a him.
He simply stopped putting the effort in . That’s all.

I did however get the total ick from what he said to you. Is nobody else picking up on his disgusting tactic.

A women didn’t want to sleep with him . He didn’t respect this he choose to push to give oral so she would then have sex with him.
Yuck !
Op you can do better.
Why did you split the first time. ?

Yes it didn’t sit right with me either as he actually said she moved in with him as she had nowhere to live and I think it sounds more like she just wanted somewhere to live and wasn’t overly interested in him, he also said that after they slept together she told him that she wasn’t going to pay him rent anymore because they had slept together which annoyed him, just weird all round. For those that said I should have brought it up I do agree but if someone doesn’t want to do it then I don’t mind I don’t want anyone to do something they don’t want to do. We were arguing a lot which is why we broke up.

How about asking him? Might be a good plan

I did he just didn’t really say much about it.

My partner doesn’t do it any more either but I remember him doing it a lot at first. I think it’s because he likes kissing me and prefers to be face to face?

I wouldn’t like hearing all the details about the other woman although surely that conversation would have been a good way for you to ask him why he’s stopped doing that with you? We can all guess on here but he’s the only one who knows.

btw showering every day doesn’t necessarily mean your pH hasn’t changed.

Sorry I did question him on the fact he doesn’t do it to me anymore but he didn’t say much, he certainly didn’t respond with why he sort of just avoided answering, he is not a massive kisser either tbh especially during so don’t think it’s that.

I don't think it has anything to do with you personally.

Motivation/desire for sex often naturally decreases the longer you are with someone.

And he was with someone new and re-entered that "honeymoon stage" with her.

Thank you yes I refuse to believe it’s because I smell bad or taste bad…He expected it done to him every time though 😅

Well, he really wanted to sleep with her so whipped out one of his best moves to win her over. It’s probably not nice of me to say that but that’s what the answer is. Nothing to do with you and everything to do with him and her.
Why he told you? Unless he’s a bit of a sadist, it was probably more of an immature way of prompting a ‘wow, wish you’d do that to me again’ response. Communication is the only way forwards here like with pretty much everything in relationships. You should communicate openly with him (instead of guessing why he’s stopped doing something, just ask) and he should be open with you (instead of trying to drop hints via his sexual antics with other women).

He doesn't sound like a catch quite honestly. But I don't understand why you would not ask him to do it if you want him to. Is the sex any good without it? If not honestly just ditch him because he knows what makes sex good for you but he can't be arsed to do it. Sex is not a service women give men! You're allowed to like it!

Nobody should be doing anything they don’t like or are feeling pressured into doing.

Talk to him.

I really don’t think he wanted that tbh. Think he just wanted to rub my face in it tbh

just to add I did ask him but he just shrugged it off and didn’t really say much

Oh that’s quite malicious of him then.

This. He shouldn’t be sharing that stuff with you. Ick!

Perhaps he stopped originally because he read that it increases the risk of cancer of the throat, neck and mouth.