Heartbroken

[Heartbroken1989]

I can’t eat or sleep for about a month now. I’m soo broken. Been going to the gym and swimming to keep busy. Listening to guided meditations on YouTube. Breathing exercises. But nothing seems to work. Im exhausted. How will I get over this? All I seem to do is cry so hard, literally to the point I scream and get mad at myself.

I know how u all feel its the second time now it happened to me , and its the worse feeling every . But instead of two children i have 4 to look after and thats not easy at all . Its up or down at the min , I just sit here and think its all my fault bevsie I was the one doing all the work in the house, like after children. Cooking cleaning and working myself . It was all down to me he worked nights so all he really had to do was pick the children up from school thats it. But sometimes he was late picking then u . Which is horrible bevsie it feel like he did not give a shit at all . I just wish is could cut my hands of him , bevsie he is like my oldest two children dad .

Just don’t contact him again, delete his number and block him. You will get over it so much quicker and he will lose his control over you, which is a lot more satisfying. You know you deserve better than this x

There's no label but the one that says heartbroken.

You know your worth and that you're a strong woman, beautiful with an inner core of steel. It might not feel like it at the moment. You've lost something valuable to yourself, and with that comes bereavement and grief. You have to be kind to yourself, and put yourself and your child first.

You don't owe anything to someone who treats you like this for a year. The thing to do is cut off contact cold turkey. He's dead to you.

Grieve as you should.

You don't have to explain anything to anyone. You just focus on yourself and healing one step at a time. The way you know you need to. You are your best friend and know yourself more than anyone else. It will take time....give yourself the time and support as you're doing.

You've got this. Xx

It is best that he does cut it off with you.
He is a cheat and not loyal at all.
You are better off knowing, Op. He was up to no good and you didn't know. How disrespectful of him.

Try not to waste a second of your life thinking about him.
You are now free to take your child on adventures that just the two of you will enjoy.

Please don't give up on Love. There is someone out there just for you.
You should go out with your son or with other parents. I know you might not feel like going out but it will do you more good than harm.
If you are a believer get involved in one of the groups. Wherever you live there must be some support group workshop that you can attend. Please don't suffer in silence.
I have been through Something similar when I lost a loved one.
I cannot begin to explain what I went through. Today I am free and grateful for the people who stand by me through thick and thin.

You will get through this but not on your own. Please don't shut everyone out of your life. You need their support. You don't have to tell them from Genesis to Revelations all you have to do is just get up and do something fun like going to the museum, park, movies, Gym just find something to do with your son or a good friend. That will take your mind off all that is causing you emotional hurt, pain and stress. LET IT GO my dear !!!
THINK ABOUT YOUR LOVELY PRINCE (SON) WHO NEEDS YOU!!
PEACE & LOVE 🙏🏼❤🙏🏼

Yes & I don't see anything in her post which mentions a relationship breakdown or what actually happened to cause her so much upset? I'm wondering if there's been another comment I missed? 💚🤔💚

My wife has decided and said we would be divorcing,(25 years married) two childern, I have been crying for 9 days straight, lost the will to live lost all interest in everything even food, i wake up every two hours of vivid thoughs of her with someone else. I spoke to my company who provides someone to talk to, I also spoke to doctors who provided me with antidepressants 10mg, this is just get get me to level out.

From a blokes perspective its horrible, we still live in the same house as all money tired up in our house, still share the same bed, pure torture. We will remain friends for ours boys. I feel so alone and have noone to talk to my family side as i have nothing to do with them As someone like me who has autism (PDA) it's double pain and sadness. I wish every success and hope we both get through this if anything for our children.

I really hope it does get better.

So sorry you’re feeling like this OP. I completely understand the feeling especially if there was no label and sometimes I think that hurts more because it’s the potential of what could have been.
I also understand not wanting to talk to anyone about it, what helped me when I feel things are hard to talk about is journalling . I just get out my journal and pen and just write . The journal is for you and you only so you can write about absolutely anything whether it be a letter to him you’ll never send . A ‘rage page’ where you write out all your anger . A list of all his faults and also ‘glow up affirmations’.
You sound like a lovely beautiful woman and you need to change your mindset. You didn’t lose him, he lost you and that’s on him.
You need to turn your pain into power. Don’t doubt yourself or question your worth over some loser who is on holiday with someone else .
You will come out of this stronger and wiser believe me . What right does this man have to make you cry, feel broken, question your worth?
You need to start remembering who the hell you are and take this idiot off the pedestal you’ve put him on.
Don’t wait for someone to choose you, choose yourself and love yourself . I’ve been where you are and it bloody hurts but it does get better.
Remove your focus from how you feel about them to how they made you feel. He wasn’t special it was you that made him special.
And if all else fails imagine him taking a big dump with his face being all red and grunting . That tends to work xx

These feelings are really really shit both physical and emotional. It does take time and sometimes a great deal of it .

I sense in your post though the hope that he is going to realise that this is all a mistake and he will come back. You said it wasn't really him who wanted to end it. Be realistic here - he has chosen. It has ended. Why would you want someone back who has treated you as an option ? You know what - I bet he will come crawling back to you when he's back for his little kicks and excitement. Do not get involved in any more chats with him - it prolongs the agony , it gives him a rush and it gives you false hope for a man who doesn't deserve it.