How did you feel?

[AOL44]

How did you feel when you first found out your parter was cheating?

I found out last night and I feel physically ill. Haven’t slept all night, I feel a lump in my throat. My legs feel like jelly, my heart is pounding.mt head is aching.

He doesn’t know that I know yet so I have to walk around pretending.

My whole world has been turned upside down in the blink of an eye 😭😭😭😭

Sound advice from @OchreRaven don't give him any power at all. Just move on and look after yourself and your DC. Nothing he could say or do, and no amount of self pity from him could cancel out such betrayal and you will never trust him again. He doesn't deserve you. I wish you every strength going forward. You are strong and you will be fine. Keep that anger going.

The first time it happened to me I honestly felt like I'd been hit by a car. The second time it happened I woke in the middle of the night with a realisation of what was happening. Like you mine had been going on for eight years. I went into a full-blown panic attack where I literally couldn't move for hours. We were on holiday and I was sleeping in a different room. There was a clock on the wall and I remember just watching the clock all night and thinking I was going to die. Having said that, the second time I didn't tell him I knew for another few weeks. He was due to go back to work and I told him the night before he went. The other woman was someone he worked with.

I felt utter horror, i could not process it and reacted with anger and emotion. If I could go back in time I would take myself away to actually give myself time to deal with it, breathe and be less emotional. Unfortunately I didn't have hindsight I did everything wrong, I screamed, cried, made the situation worse..
Please just go away and try to be calm, do not react I'm the moment.