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blueskiesgalore · 2025-10-01T12:36:14+00:00

How can I save my marriage? Married one year, 2 week old baby. It's been Rocky and we have been through a lot. Told me this morning he doesn't want this and is going to sleep with someone else. I'm devastated. To be clear I have been horrible to him at times in the past. He has told me it's over more times than I can count. Can I save this or is if time to let go?

spiderlight · 01/10/2025 23:11

I can't believe what he's said to you. What an absolute arse of a man he is. Look at your beautiful daughter. Would you want her to end up with a husband who treated her like this? Show her right from the start that this behaviour is utterly unacceptable - get rid of him and focus on her.

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blueskiesgalore · 02/10/2025 00:21

spiderlight · 01/10/2025 23:11

I can't believe what he's said to you. What an absolute arse of a man he is. Look at your beautiful daughter. Would you want her to end up with a husband who treated her like this? Show her right from the start that this behaviour is utterly unacceptable - get rid of him and focus on her.

Thankyou she is my focus now

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Crushed23 · 02/10/2025 00:39

zeddybrek · 01/10/2025 13:58

Could you both see a therapist together. You have a child together, maybe it's worth both of you going together to see what is the underlying cause. It will make him look at himself and have to justify his behaviour.

Ordinarily this is good advice but OP’s husband has repeatedly told her it’s over and is now planning to get involved with someone else. It doesn’t sound like it’s salvageable. She needs to focus on moving on, not waste time begging him after he has made up his mind (a while ago it seems?).

It’s a horrible place to be, especially with a newborn, but you will get past this - time heals everything. I would lean on your family and friends, even if you think you would be burdening them with your problems. You’re in a vulnerable position navigating a relationship breakdown with a 2-week old and need as much support as you can get.

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blueskiesgalore · 02/10/2025 02:33

Crushed23 · 02/10/2025 00:39

Ordinarily this is good advice but OP’s husband has repeatedly told her it’s over and is now planning to get involved with someone else. It doesn’t sound like it’s salvageable. She needs to focus on moving on, not waste time begging him after he has made up his mind (a while ago it seems?).

It’s a horrible place to be, especially with a newborn, but you will get past this - time heals everything. I would lean on your family and friends, even if you think you would be burdening them with your problems. You’re in a vulnerable position navigating a relationship breakdown with a 2-week old and need as much support as you can get.

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This too shall pass. I am spending time at my parents a few hours away while he moves out

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blueskiesgalore · 02/10/2025 03:16

Crushed23 · 02/10/2025 00:39

Ordinarily this is good advice but OP’s husband has repeatedly told her it’s over and is now planning to get involved with someone else. It doesn’t sound like it’s salvageable. She needs to focus on moving on, not waste time begging him after he has made up his mind (a while ago it seems?).

It’s a horrible place to be, especially with a newborn, but you will get past this - time heals everything. I would lean on your family and friends, even if you think you would be burdening them with your problems. You’re in a vulnerable position navigating a relationship breakdown with a 2-week old and need as much support as you can get.

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I have accepted it's over and have more respect for myself than to beg. No therapy could help the hurt I'm feeling

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