I've been seeing someone for the past 6 months. We have really good fun together, good laughs, he's kind, warm, helpful and we have good physical chemistry.
He is divorced, it was over 5 years ago, separated for a lot longer before and I know he was the main breadwinner and they went through some hard times as they had five children. Now he's in a good position financially, his children are all grown up and in their twenties etc. etc. I am fairly secure myself, which I am so grateful for and I never forget how lucky I am. I'm not incredibly financially well-off, but am always generous towards him when we go out and if I see something I think he would like, small gifts and food, I will treat him.
The other night he made a really odd comment. I've noticed he thinks aloud almost and since coming off an anti-depressant, seems unable to even contain his thought processes. We were talking about finances and the cost of living and he said "You cost me around 5k a year. I've worked it out!"
I was really taken aback. It made me laugh but also made me a bit annoyed if I'm being entirely honest. I took the mickey out of him for saying it and now he says he regrets even bringing it up. He "only did it because at one point in his life he really struggled".
I doubt I even cost him that much. I like going out for the odd meal and can drink a bit on and off, but I'm not always asking to go out. It's not even once every couple of weeks.
What do you all think? The fact he has taken time to calculate the cost of me as his girlfriend has now made me see him as rather mercenary.