Good evening, this is my first post on such a forum. I'm not even sure where to begin. Here goes. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years nearly 7, in the beginning it was easy, he worked, we would do things together. He moved into my house after about 1 year as he was in a caravan and it was making him ill especially during the colder weather and it made sense financially. Fast forward, he then got lazy, he won't help around the house, we don't do anything together, we basically live separate lives. He stays up all night on FB which means he doesn't get up for work. In the last 5 years he has probably had 6 jobs becuase he's always late or rings in sick when he is not. The last 6 months have been really difficult, he has been unemployed with no rush to find a job. Tells lies when asks or gets really defensive. He has 2 children, his 15 year old got kicked out and now lives with us. He got kicked out for stealing, not going to school, doing really poorly in school, not washing, talking back to his mum. So he never spoke to me about it, he just went off and got him and told me it was happening if I liked it or not. Now I've been partner the kids lives for the last 6 years but the partner won't let me say anything to them. If his 9 year old uses his fingers for tea them wipes them on my furniture, I can't say anything. They don't flush the loo, I can't say anything. His 15 year old has only been at school 8 days and already been late 3 times and got a detention. I can't say anything. I am a firm believer in kids getting an education and always have been. Boyfriend had a rocky relationship with his ex wife but now they talk every day. He would rather go and speak to other people than communicate anything with me. I was in hospital with a collapsed lung and I got a taxi home from hospital becuase he was at the pub. He avoids all conversations that are difficult. He acts like they never happened. He has zero respect for me and I am now starting to see that he has been using me as a walking ATM. I don't give it to him, he uses emotional blackmail and how he needs fuel for his car to get the other son etc. I told him on Saturday that I was done with the bull shit, done with being treat like shit, being blamed for everything and that I would rather be single. I told him I was don't with being blamed for everything. He walked back in from being with his mates and has said absolutely nothing, acting like nothing happened. I'm struggling becuase I have never argued in front of the kids but I am so ready to blow my top and just tell him to get out. Am I being unreasonable, over reacting or being difficult? It's like walking on egg shells all the time in my own house.