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He’s 16 years younger than me

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Saucymaucy · 24/09/2025 12:24

I’m 44, he’s 28. Says he loves me, happy to be a step dad to my children. Behaves as though he’s infatuated and obsessed with me. Mentions quite a bit about the future and what it will look like for us.

now here’s the kicker, we’ve never met, known each other online for only 3 weeks. We’ve FaceTimed and called many times, 2 hour phone calls and multiple messages throughout the day.

it’s now week 4 and he’s heavily cut contact, barely messaging, hours without replying to the point he last messaged a few days ago asking when it’s best to call, I replied and have heard nothing since!

what the hell!!

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WearyAuldWumman · 24/09/2025 12:26

Is this for real?

Three weeks online? Either he has cold feet or he's a scammer. I'd stop responding in your place.

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Saucymaucy · 24/09/2025 12:27

I’ve deleted his contact details and messages so I’m not tempted to message him.

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DisplayPurposesOnly · 24/09/2025 12:30

Three weeks online is not a real relationship. He's just playing with the idea (ooh I could be the kind of guy who is a great step dad with a happy home life) - as are you.

Time to let go of the fantasty life and join the real world.

DinoLil · 24/09/2025 12:31

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Don't be a fool, he's not interested in yyou.You were just a bit of online fun for five minutes. He's probably having a good old laugh with his mates.

Lollytea655 · 24/09/2025 12:32

All a scam.

Reachedtheend · 24/09/2025 12:32

Sorry OP but he has been playing games with you.

mbonfield · 24/09/2025 12:34

Ditch the end best advice.

RealEagle · 24/09/2025 12:35

Thought you ended it cos he wants kids .(21/9)

CaffeinatedSeagull · 24/09/2025 12:49

This sounds very much like a scam. How did you ‘meet’? Has he asked you for money at any point?

One scam is they reel you in with promises and declarations of love, then it goes quiet and then theres an ‘emergency’ and they need money from you as a ‘loan’. This sounds very much like that.

TheDenimPoet · 24/09/2025 12:49

DisplayPurposesOnly · 24/09/2025 12:30

Three weeks online is not a real relationship. He's just playing with the idea (ooh I could be the kind of guy who is a great step dad with a happy home life) - as are you.

Time to let go of the fantasty life and join the real world.

This.

You are not in a relationship with this man, however old he is.

Stop contacting him, and get out there to meet someone properly!

RaininSummer · 24/09/2025 12:51

How ridiculous.

Original poster
Saucymaucy · 24/09/2025 12:53

He definitely lovebombed me and I fell for it. Met him on fabswingers

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LeviCutOffs · 24/09/2025 12:54

He’s a huge red flag. You need help!

Original poster
Saucymaucy · 24/09/2025 12:56

also, it was him who cut contact, not me.

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Snorlaxo · 24/09/2025 12:59

Nobody falls in love after 3 weeks.

This screams scammer who has found an even more gullible prey.

Thewalrusandthecarpenter · 24/09/2025 12:59

People looking for serious monogamous relationships tend not to use fabswingers.

Sashya · 24/09/2025 13:00

OP - you are 44, but you sound 14.

Obviously fabswingers is not a dating platform - so why this drama, as if you actually were in a relationship????
Give your head a shake and stop fooling yourself.

If you are on fabswingers - you are looking for casual sexual encounters. Being naïve at 44 and thinking that a random guy on sex site talking about feelings actually means anything is strange.

UpDownAllAround1 · 24/09/2025 13:00

This is all made up. You say you’ve never met and then say you have met….on a swinging site!

Thingamebobwotsit · 24/09/2025 13:01

Scam.

Sorry it has happened to you, but it is increasingly common.

blankcanvas3 · 24/09/2025 13:03

Why on earth did you think somebody on fabswingers was looking for a serious relationship? This cannot be serious

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Saucymaucy · 24/09/2025 13:20

UpDownAllAround1 · 24/09/2025 13:00

This is all made up. You say you’ve never met and then say you have met….on a swinging site!

Edited

We met online never face to face

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Saucymaucy · 24/09/2025 13:22

Sashya · 24/09/2025 13:00

OP - you are 44, but you sound 14.

Obviously fabswingers is not a dating platform - so why this drama, as if you actually were in a relationship????
Give your head a shake and stop fooling yourself.

If you are on fabswingers - you are looking for casual sexual encounters. Being naïve at 44 and thinking that a random guy on sex site talking about feelings actually means anything is strange.

I think my naivety is showing. I was ready to start dating and came across FAB it was recommended on MN so thought I’d give it a shot

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Starlight7080 · 24/09/2025 13:23

Stay away from anything online. Its mostly scams or people just having a laugh.
Its not good for your mental health which will then have a negative impact on your children. Especially if they are young.

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Saucymaucy · 24/09/2025 13:23

Snorlaxo · 24/09/2025 12:59

Nobody falls in love after 3 weeks.

This screams scammer who has found an even more gullible prey.

I think I’m really gullible. He knows my real name and where I live! I can’t believe I’ve been so stupid

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Starlight7080 · 24/09/2025 13:24

Also i cant believe you are even contemplating a random man you met online having anything to do with your children