Womens things…

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What do you all think of a man who refuses to buy his partner womens things

His refusal, especially in those circumstances, while you are looking after your baby, and he was already out, would be completely unacceptable to me. I absolutely would not be putting up with that. It is so unbelievably disrespectful to you and makes me wonder in what other ways is he pathetic.

I asked my partner once and he came back with Tena lady 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think he needs to grow up. I’m menopausal now, but my husband would get me sanitary towels if needs be. I just told him what kind to buy. My sons are the same with their partners.

My dad - way back in the 80s - made sure he had some Tampax in for me at his, ready for when I started my periods. He definitely bought them himself, no woman around to do so. And that was when it was a bit of a taboo subject in many ways. He kept them in the electricity meter cupboard 😂

What an idiot,it's just another item to be scanned by the checkout operator (if you use one)and they won't bat an eyelid.
DW would tell me brand and type I'd get them with the shopping no big deal.

Lol - there’s a shop in town where I once noticed an expensive brand large value pack was a couple quid off on sale but it meant carrying them along the long high street and crossing a busy road to get to the car park and it just seemed so undignified a walk 😅 that I reluctantly left them haha

Lol @MoominMai

Pathetic, immature...... just like my ex. Who also (would use but) wouldn't buy condoms. Unbelievable.

Pathetic

Absolutely ridiculous but I think quite common.

I was horrified to discover a few years ago that a friend with sons only was militant about never ever letting them see period products or knowing that she had a period. I don't think that does any favours to us, our sons, or to their future wives, girlfriends, partners or even just female friends.

This is why I have DS who have wandered in on me from toddlerhood sorting out my mooncup and been told exactly what I was doing and why. The only acceptable response would be, Yes, of course, what do you need? and if he didn't also come back with some good chocolate in his back pocket he's a no use whatsoever.

What reason did he give? That's absurd. An ex of mine kindly went out when I had awful cramps and not only managed to buy pain relief, brought back sanitary towels in pretty much every single type available because he didn't want to buy the wrong one. Didn't need to buy any sanitary ware for about three months after that!

A grown man that you've had sex with and presumably was there when you gave birth won't pick up some sanitary towels for you? Does he think that periods are a little shower of perfumed glitter that you sweep up with a dustpan and brush each month.

He must be repressed/a dickhead/both.

My DD’s say one sign of a good boyfriend is that he’s happy to get your tampons, DS quickly started to offer to get them for us, we all considered this training for his future.

My husband buys them no problem and my ex partners all did too. My daughters boyfriend aged 19 even bought them for her once when she was caught short he wasn’t embarassed. I think I’d just find it weird if someone flatly refused regardless of their age.

I would free bleed then or use his pillow as a make do sanitary towel for the evening, stupid, selfish shit.

Yep, I know my 19 year old has got on his bike to get his girlfriend's supplies

the way our week is always organised, and the fact she can't really pop out of work to buy them when needed, it's highly likely i've bought them for my wife more often than she has over the length of our marriage!

it was also a conscious decision of ours not to be weird/secretive about it for our daughter's sake, which means her younger brothers now also wouldn't bat an eyelid if they were asked to get some while at the shop.

while a lot of men are useless and unaware about this sort of thing, i think it is very often because their mothers/wives/sisters/daughters have worked hard to ensure they remain oblivious.

Women’s things? Might help if you used the words too!

I volunteered at a food bank, behind the scenes there were men in the warehouse that wouldn't pick orders of sanpro 🤯

Really strange, and immature, but not uncommon.

He's pathetic. They're made of tissue and cotton wool (well, maybe a little more complex but...).

Maybe tell him if he's put off by women's problems he has no right to be involved in your womanly bits.

Pathetic and childish and sadly not uncommon.

I think if my husband had ever got squiffy over buying my intimate items I would've turned around and told him wasn't mature enough to be in a relationship then.

Bloody hell.. my husband bought mine when we were newly married 30 years ago. Would have thought by now it wasn’t ever an issue.

@sanityisamyth forget the title thats not the point and not what i asked him to get i was just thinking of a catchy title as i needed quick advice omg
also didnt want him to see this post as he knows i come on here
everyone going on at me over the title of post, people need to think further about peoples reasons and not be too quick to judge