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He hit me

47 replies

Booksandsea · 19/09/2025 21:06

Just that really. He smacked me in face and says he’s taking our girl away. Any advice what to do? I’m her sole carer and am breastfeeding… she has his surname though

OP posts:
FishMouse · 19/09/2025 21:10

Call the police, get a solicitor, take your baby and go somewhere safe.

Summersunplease21 · 19/09/2025 21:12

I’m sorry that happened to you. I think you know you need to leave. Are you emotionally and practically ready to do that? What is your living and financial situation? She might have his surname but is he named on the birth certificate as then he has parental responsibility? Do you have a safe place you can go to or family nearby? There are domestic violence charities that can help you with somewhere to stay if necessary and you can also seek family law legal advice to get residence and/or non molestation orders to keep him away from you.

HappyHedgehog247 · 19/09/2025 21:14

Call the police and get out with their help.

HappyHedgehog247 · 19/09/2025 21:15

Im sorry this happened to you. I know it's hard to leave but this will get worse.

Thehorticuluralhussie · 19/09/2025 21:16

Leave now with your baby

ilovepixie · 19/09/2025 21:31

Leave now with your baby. Do you have anywhere to go?

gamerchick · 19/09/2025 21:33

They always threaten to take the kids. It's just a way of causing pain.

Get him lifted. The police will come and remove him.

Emilygilmoreshandbag · 19/09/2025 21:33

Take the baby, go somewhere safe and call the police. Can you go to your parents or a friend?

Wishitsnows · 19/09/2025 21:34

Call the police. You will be ok but you need their involvement now.

VaccineSticker · 19/09/2025 21:44

Booksandsea · 19/09/2025 21:06

Just that really. He smacked me in face and says he’s taking our girl away. Any advice what to do? I’m her sole carer and am breastfeeding… she has his surname though

999 now

wobblycake · 19/09/2025 21:46

If it was me id have hit him back with something hard claim self defence then call the police.
Take the child its just big talk op.
Id scare him so bad id scare myself that fucker would not come back.
Sorry i cant stand men that think they can push women down and think women wont fight back.

Call the police and go to womens aid friends parents house etc.
He wont take the child and the surname means nothing.

johnd2 · 19/09/2025 21:48

That's assault, which is a criminal offence. I agree with getting the baby out of the way first then call the police as they can remove him from the house (by giving him alternative accomodation in their cells) much more easily than you can

ProjectsGalore · 19/09/2025 21:49

Police. Do not stay with this abusive bully.

ForgetMeNotRose · 19/09/2025 22:14

Where is he now? Are you and the baby safe?

Betsy95 · 19/09/2025 22:17

Get out.

Make sure you and baby are safe.

He won’t change.
I did 12 years of this before I left …You need to leave
Don’t buy into his threats.
Take your power back and get out of there.

Hope you are ok xx

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 19/09/2025 22:19

Please call the police OP.
You need them to arrest this man and get him out of the house.

Notrees · 19/09/2025 22:21

I know everyone else has said the same, but I'm repeating it to emphasise how important it is that you do it. Get out, family, friends, hotel, and call the police.

MeganM3 · 19/09/2025 22:27

You need to act fast. Report the abuse. Get somewhere safe with baby. Don’t wait for the next time he does this.

MeTooOverHere · 19/09/2025 22:39

Booksandsea · 19/09/2025 21:06

Just that really. He smacked me in face and says he’s taking our girl away. Any advice what to do? I’m her sole carer and am breastfeeding… she has his surname though

What country are you in?
Are you married to him?

I am guessing the "taking our girl away" is a threat to keep you under his thumb. Most of these men won't actually want to take care of a baby; the ones that do don't tend to hit the mother. Give us some details so we can advise better.

itsraining2024 · 19/09/2025 22:39

Call the police and tell them everything.

MeTooOverHere · 19/09/2025 22:40

wobblycake · 19/09/2025 21:46

If it was me id have hit him back with something hard claim self defence then call the police.
Take the child its just big talk op.
Id scare him so bad id scare myself that fucker would not come back.
Sorry i cant stand men that think they can push women down and think women wont fight back.

Call the police and go to womens aid friends parents house etc.
He wont take the child and the surname means nothing.

Take the child its just big talk op.

He wont take the child and the surname means nothing.

THIS ^

Original poster
Booksandsea · 20/09/2025 00:12

I’ve got a black eye and cut cheek. I’m meant to work tomorrow

OP posts:
Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 20/09/2025 00:16

Take photos of your injuries and send them to an email account he can't access, call the police ASAP, and arrange somewhere safe to stay with a trusted friend or relative.

SnowflakeSmasher86 · 20/09/2025 00:16

Have you called the police?

Are you in the UK?
Will he be leaving the house tomorrow?

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 20/09/2025 00:17

I'm so sorry he's done this. Can you call in sick to work, tell them there's an emergency? How old is your baby?

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