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He hit me

47 replies

Booksandsea · 19/09/2025 21:06

Just that really. He smacked me in face and says he’s taking our girl away. Any advice what to do? I’m her sole carer and am breastfeeding… she has his surname though

OP posts:
TwelvePercent · 20/09/2025 00:19

Where are you & your baby now OP?

Where is the man who hit you?

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 20/09/2025 00:24

Please call the police now, they will take him away tonight. He won’t go to prison ‘just’ for this so don’t worry about protecting him and you’re not ruining your life. But you need to have proof that this happened when he takes you to court to try and take baby. Otherwise it will sound like you made it up. I didn’t call police when my ex punched a whole in my wall I wish I had.

ForgetMeNotRose · 20/09/2025 06:05

I'm so sorry OP. Please do take photos of your injury as evidence to keep. Is he going out to work? If so please call the police while he is out if you can't while he's there. He's assaulted you. You and the baby deserve to be safe.

springruns · 20/09/2025 07:19

Have you called the police? If not do that immediately, have him arrested and apply to courts on Monday for a prohibited steps order if he is on the birth certificate

Hohofortherobbers · 20/09/2025 08:07

If you haven't yet called the police then tell someone at work you trust and take photos, this will be good sources of evidence when you do decide to call them.

Dery · 20/09/2025 08:20

You can’t go to work, OP. You need to stay with your baby, call the police and get him taken away or leave yourself with your child.

Marieb19 · 20/09/2025 11:24

Pack a bag and go to a family or friends house or go to the police station. They will take you to a refuge. Are you British? There is help available and he can not take your baby.

Holliegee · 20/09/2025 11:29

Please believe me.
He has hit you and hurt you, he will do it again and you will always be afraid he will do it again, if you are afraid now that he will take your daughter away - imagine how it will feel time and time again.

Call the police, take all the support they and others offer - take your baby and build a new life for yourself.
They never just hit you once.

If you stay you are accepting his violence and it will grind you down- go now whilst the anger is real.

Bananalanacake · 20/09/2025 11:33

Who owns the property you live in, if it's yours you can call the police to remove him.

SamphiretheTervosaur · 20/09/2025 11:36

Go somewhere, anywhere. Take your child and ask someone, anyone for help contacting the police and staying safe.

Library, charity shop, any kind of health centre... anywhere...

itsraining2024 · 20/09/2025 12:56

Please call the police and let them know if not for you then for your child.

itsraining2024 · 20/09/2025 12:56

What kind of pathetic man hits a woman. Disgusting.

Muffinmam · 20/09/2025 13:01

Booksandsea · 19/09/2025 21:06

Just that really. He smacked me in face and says he’s taking our girl away. Any advice what to do? I’m her sole carer and am breastfeeding… she has his surname though

You call the police immediately. Pretend you’re more upset than you actually are so that they take it seriously.

You get rid of him. He’s not safe around your child.

I’ve called the Police on my partner. They are used to dealing with domestics.

BigBirdOfPrey · 20/09/2025 13:03

Phone police, he will have to leave and won’t be allowed back as there is children under 18 in the house.
SS will keep him away

Waolom · 20/09/2025 13:15

Call the police. After seeing this situation so many times, just call them. Don’t make the mistake of not reporting while you have the evidence on your face. The longer you wait you leave your case vulnerable

Gettingbysomehow · 20/09/2025 13:22

I've been in this situation OP you MUST call the police so he doesn't get to see the baby. Violent men don't go down well in court at all. Get photos. He will be removed. He doesn't stand a hope in hell of getting the baby. Don't go to work. Call them to say you've been a domestic violence victim they will understand. It's important NOT to leave the baby with him at this stage.

Omgblueskys · 20/09/2025 13:38

Worrying as op hasn't updated, I hope they are safe

LivingWithANob · 20/09/2025 15:36

Did you call police. You need to so this is on file which will build a case against him taking baby away. Take photos and log all details of what happened yourself. Please dont stay, despite all promises etc, you did nothing provoke him. Get out now before he does it again x

LivingWithANob · 20/09/2025 21:23

Please let us know you are ok op x

itsraining2024 · 20/09/2025 22:48

Him having her surname doesn’t matter because he’s an abuser.

Ponderingwindow · 20/09/2025 22:54

If you can’t call the police safely, grab your baby and go to either to a&e or the police station. Don’t tell him where you are going, just grab your bag and leave. Get in your car, on a bus, or in a taxi as quickly as possible.

You were hit hard enough to cause bruising. Medical treatment is warranted hence why I suggest a&e. They can also help get you in contact with proper support.

LivingWithANob · 23/09/2025 11:25

Still thinking of you op x

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