The much, MUCH more prevalent issue is him shouting at you for asking. Is he usually that shouty and if so, why on earth do you put up with it? If that level of aggression is unusual, I'm afraid it would have me wondering why he's so defensive to the point of acting out of character.
I totally agree with you MaggiesShadow my concern is that this is totally IN character. If this is the way he deals with any push-back or disagreement, he's an abusive person & OP needs to get rid ASAP.
As I've said in previous post, DH & me have never shouted at each other in 42 years - but boy, have we had arguments - as every couple has.
My parents used to have slanging matches, where my mother would throw things, scream & shout (not only at my DF but sometimes at us children) my father would shout back, my brother and me would hide in a large cupboard upstairs & be scared to come downstairs. I used to keep a stock of biscuits upstairs (stolen from the cupboards) so that we could stay upstairs indefinitely.
I was determined that I would never subject my DCs to that kind of tyranny.
DH naturally gets quiet when he's angry, I've never heard him shout at anything or anyone other than his iPad or his phone when it doesn't do what he wants - then he turns into Victor Meldrew 😂