When did you know if you saw a long term future with someone?

[johnny2024]

I've been dating someone for 2 months. She's lovely and at the moment it's going well. We're not seeing other people and generally it's a pleasure to date her.

But I don't really know what my feelings are on the long term yet. And it's making me extremely anxious. I've always been an anxious guy with relationships. But the thought of never dating anyone else feels quite overwhelming right now.

She doesn't really talk about the future. She's very easy going doesn't think too far ahead. I think. Any future discussions, what she wants, what she hopes for etc, have all come from me. And it's always been pretty vague answers.

I know there's always some uncertainty in dating. But I feel like the entire direction of this relationship is being directed by me. And she just does whatever I want. Which feels like quite a lot of pressure.

Plus added on that I don't really know where I'll be living next year etc. Kinda worrying me

I don't really want it to end right now. But I'm still not sure of the future with her and feel I should know by now?

If you are being honest with her then you are not doing anything wrong. It is her choice what she does with that information. You can only decide what you want to do and maintain an honest communication with her so she can choose what she wants to do.

You need to work on why you are so anxious about all the different permutations of how this relationship could pan out.
You've been dating for 2 months, you should not be this concerned about it.

This is the only advice I can give, and it is the only thing that will help long term as life is full of questions and you need to identify how to effectively deal with them and it appears at present you are unable to do this.

I wish you luck, but hope that you reach out for some face to face help and support outside of medication as I don't believe it is having the desired effect.