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Best online app

38 replies

superplumb · 09/09/2025 10:03

Im on match currently. Tried fb it was awful.
What other apps are there which allow hard filtering like education salary etc?

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Girlmom35 · 09/09/2025 12:13

I think the lack of response tells you nobody here is fond of any apps really...

fedup078 · 09/09/2025 12:22

Can’t remember what the filtering was like but I found Hinge the best

Secondstart1001 · 09/09/2025 12:28

I used Match five years ago and found my current partner. Even will those filters you get some dodgy people. Good luck x

ThatAquaRobin · 09/09/2025 12:44

All the same men are on all of the apps.
I preferred bumble.

Plastictreees · 09/09/2025 12:45

I always say that tinder is best as I know the most real life success from it. Plus it’s the most popular app, cast the net wide and then sieve discerningly!

Okigen · 09/09/2025 12:52

I and a few friends all met their partners via Hinge. Had to meet a lot of people including some crazy ones to find “the one” though. I think it’s just the nature of online dating these days. My partner and their male friends all said they had it a lot worse.

StripyShirt · 09/09/2025 17:47

Hinge and Bumble are both good

TwistedWonder · 09/09/2025 17:49

They’re all equally shit but apparently there are a small number of needles in the huge haystack of crap

superplumb · 09/09/2025 17:57

But which app has the most filters? On match I have filters which stop them messaging of theyre outside the filters..but they do invites where they can still message!! Not to mention the likes from 70 year olds 100 miles away. I just dont want to be contacted at all by anyone outside my filters.
We should be able to have really strict filters like noone with the name x ..must earn y. Etc.

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TwistedWonder · 09/09/2025 17:58

superplumb · 09/09/2025 17:57

But which app has the most filters? On match I have filters which stop them messaging of theyre outside the filters..but they do invites where they can still message!! Not to mention the likes from 70 year olds 100 miles away. I just dont want to be contacted at all by anyone outside my filters.
We should be able to have really strict filters like noone with the name x ..must earn y. Etc.

Bumble you can only talk when you match if you don’t get random approaches.

YetanotherNC25 · 09/09/2025 18:08

For filtering I agree Bumble. But Tinder has more people. There’s barely anyone on Hinge where I am. I exhausted it in a day and my only match (due to me swiping left on pretty much everyone) is sells dog food and is very dull. I refuse to have another conversation about dog food. So it’s paused.
I’ve met someone on FB dating although the last time I was on it was awful. He didn’t want to go on the traditional apps so found FB easier. It’s all a numbers game anyway. You’ll likely need to try a few apps.

Plastictreees · 09/09/2025 18:11

I think expecting to filter based on things like salary is just silly, people can lie. A large part of ‘filtering’ outside of the basics such as age and location, is your own discernment.

RedRec · 09/09/2025 18:13

Thought you meant apps generally and was going to say First Bus 🙂

Notaboutthebass · 09/09/2025 21:21

Bumble and Hinge are the best in my opinion and I've been on lots of different ones for years!😪

Jasnah · 10/09/2025 05:39

Why do filters matter that much to you? If you open up a bit to certain possibilities, you might be surprised who you meet.

I met my perfect match on Hinge, but if I'd applied an education filter he would never have shown up. Messed up his GCSEs, no formal education beyond that. And yet he is one of the most intelligent men I know, has worked his way up to a position where he earns the same amount I do with similar responsibilities - and I am university-educated with far too many letters behind my name.

In fact, my own predjudice against a certain physical factor in his appearance meant we wouldn't have met in real life had a filter been applied. If asked, I would have said I am not attracted to very thin men. And yet I fancy the pants off this one and cannot get enough of him and his - to me - perfect shape.

Don't limit yourself too much. I met what I can only describe as the man of my dreams that way.

Elixir86 · 10/09/2025 07:38

You can filter a lot on Tinder if you have premium versions. Including education, family plans, smoking habits, sleeping habits, love styles, zodiac signs.... So many options.
However people don't have to answer the questions in their profile so you could end up missing someone who fits the bill because they don't disclose it and others will make it up.

Tinder is probably the busiest so you can get more exposure to people but I'd question why you have such strict requirements as to who you would date.
Someone's job and education level doesn't define who they are as a person is a combination of everything including their lived experiences.
You could end up missing the most perfect match because of your own bias.
OLD is rough at times so the more open you are to possibility the easier it is.

superplumb · 10/09/2025 09:12

Jasnah · 10/09/2025 05:39

Why do filters matter that much to you? If you open up a bit to certain possibilities, you might be surprised who you meet.

I met my perfect match on Hinge, but if I'd applied an education filter he would never have shown up. Messed up his GCSEs, no formal education beyond that. And yet he is one of the most intelligent men I know, has worked his way up to a position where he earns the same amount I do with similar responsibilities - and I am university-educated with far too many letters behind my name.

In fact, my own predjudice against a certain physical factor in his appearance meant we wouldn't have met in real life had a filter been applied. If asked, I would have said I am not attracted to very thin men. And yet I fancy the pants off this one and cannot get enough of him and his - to me - perfect shape.

Don't limit yourself too much. I met what I can only describe as the man of my dreams that way.

I meed some filters otherwise ill spend my life looking at photos of men.!
Need to draw the line somewhere. If you only have distance as a filter then they'll be thousands probably.

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superplumb · 10/09/2025 09:14

YetanotherNC25 · 09/09/2025 18:08

For filtering I agree Bumble. But Tinder has more people. There’s barely anyone on Hinge where I am. I exhausted it in a day and my only match (due to me swiping left on pretty much everyone) is sells dog food and is very dull. I refuse to have another conversation about dog food. So it’s paused.
I’ve met someone on FB dating although the last time I was on it was awful. He didn’t want to go on the traditional apps so found FB easier. It’s all a numbers game anyway. You’ll likely need to try a few apps.

I feel that about match. The top picks are being recycled!
Tinder put me off because if the hook up thing

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YetanotherNC25 · 10/09/2025 09:20

Tinder isn’t for hookups anymore. I thought the same but gave it a go anyway. It’s the same men as the others, plus a lot more. I got to 99+ likes in about an hour but most women will. If you pay you can see them and filter. I didn’t bother.

Plastictreees · 10/09/2025 10:02

Tinder has never been just for ‘hook ups’. Any app can be used for that. The past 3 weddings I attended, the couples met on Tinder. My DC wouldn’t exist if it weren’t for Tinder 😂

TwistedWonder · 10/09/2025 10:13

All of the apps have people saying they want a relationship but really only after a shag. That’s the nature of the beast - it’s just a case of matching and seeing really as most give themselves away pretty quickly.

The worst sex pests I matched with were all middle aged, middle class, well educated with good careers - doesn’t matter how many filters you add, the creeks sneak through.

CaffeinatedSeagull · 10/09/2025 11:52

superplumb · 10/09/2025 09:14

I feel that about match. The top picks are being recycled!
Tinder put me off because if the hook up thing

Have you thought about joining a match making service? They do exist still and they’ll obviously be able to filter out people who don’t meet your requirements.

A social event that they’re organising might be another good option to consider,

There’s also apps like EliteSingles or The League who are for professionals and vet people but I’m assuming the pool of people on them will be smaller (I’ve not used either).

superplumb · 10/09/2025 14:13

I feel that about match. The top picks are being recycled!
Tinder put me off because if the hook up thing

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superplumb · 10/09/2025 14:14

Plastictreees · 10/09/2025 10:02

Tinder has never been just for ‘hook ups’. Any app can be used for that. The past 3 weddings I attended, the couples met on Tinder. My DC wouldn’t exist if it weren’t for Tinder 😂

I think being mid 40s im too old now for tinder lol

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Plastictreees · 10/09/2025 15:02

superplumb · 10/09/2025 14:14

I think being mid 40s im too old now for tinder lol

Why?

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