DP and I have been having some difficulties, mostly caused by my horrendous experience with menopause. HRT helped initially, but now in the progesterone phase, I am tired, achy, anxious, grumpy and have a terrible temper.
It all came to a head and he called a female friend of mine/ours to ask what he was getting so wrong. I'll never know exactly what was said, but it sounds like he told her feels he can't get anything right and she told him how I've been struggling and to try and be patient with me. I had previously spoken to her about menopause, but not in the context of our relationship and it sounds like both were trying to be supportive, not gossipy.
DP and I have since spoken, in a way we hadn't previously, about how hard I'm finding things, and he's been lovely. We both wish I'd talked to him properly sooner. I have arranged an appointment with GP to see if we can change any meds.
But I really wish he hadn't spoken to our friend. She and I don't always have the best realtionship and I'm a private person. I don't want anyone knowing we haven't always got along, let alone a key member in my/our main social group. I feel embarrassed and don't want to go anywhere with them. I'm supposed to be going to a thing she'll be at tonight and I just can't.
He accepts he shouldn't have discussed our relationship with her, but also wants me to understand he didn't know where else to turn, which is fair, considering how I've been.
This might be part of my symptoms, but atm I never want to leave the house again. What do I do?