Is this dodgy behaviour?

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What would you think of a man who criticises you, and then when you get upset accuses you of "being in the huff"?

Then when you are even more upset refuses to give you a few minutes to yourself to to think, get your head together?

Is this gaslighting/manipulation?

Yeah it’s arsehole territory

It's a clue that you should dump him immediately.

He’s a wanker and won’t change because he doesn’t and won’t ever believe he is in the wrong! It’ll only get worse

You need to get rid...

On the information available, he sounds like an arse .

It was very unpleasant.

Bin.

You don't want to be around anyone who makes you feel like that.

I would assume he didn’t like me very much and dump him.

If you want to test someone's true colours, respond similarly and reveal their true nature, showing that you deserve better.

Sounds like a bully.

Insults you, makes you feel bad, then takes zero responsibility for how his behaviour makes you feel, and continues to deflect everything back onto you when you display behaviours/an emotional response he doesn't like.

He's telling you that he cannot handle another person's negative emotions and will blame you anytime he does something to upset you.

A decent man would reflect on his behaviour and look at what he said or did to cause the upset in the first place. This guy is telling you loud and clear that he will never look inward or make any attempts to change himself, regardless of how he makes other people feel.

Run a mile, OP.

Sorry but it's "Tell him to Fuck Off" behaviour.

He also once said to me "don't correct me". That's bad too, right?

He sounds like a complete dick. And yes, this is all part of the controlling asshole playbook.

Thanks everyone who answered.

Yes, it’s blaming you for their own appalling behaviour. Run. 🚩🚩🚩

It's so sad. I've been so good to him. Maybe if I'd treated him badly I'd have gotten more respect.

Oh lord, the only time I’m ever said that to DP was when we were larking about and I was telling him the royal family were reptiles in human suits

If someone says it seriously, I would assume that they are very pompous and unpleasant and probably mean in all ways.

He was extremely serious about it.

Is it behaviour that's likely to escalate?

Yes. He needs to be gone from your day to day life. This is who he is and he’s not going to change.

Take it from me, this is the tip of the iceberg. Listen to your gut. You don't deserve that

That's what I'm afraid of, that there will be more and much worse.

There will be. If someone minimises after they are the ones who upset you, rather than apologising and trying to understand how they can change their behaviour, I'd say that's a huge red flag. Not that I can see it myself at times!

Yes. He needs to be dumped before his verbal aggression becomes physical.