So dp has used chat lines again :(

[4andnotout]

Not even bothering name changing, im nearly 19 weeks pg with dc4 and have 3dd's of 6 and under.
This morning i opened the itemised phone bill which shows that dp has been ring poxy chat and date lines again.
Admittedly this was april but as i was pregnant by then i stll think he is being a twat.
He will come home this evening blaming lack of sex (once or twice a fortnight) and will try to forget it all.
This isnt the first time, last time i was pg he ran up £120 and i blew up at him, usual promises to stop etche loved me didn't want to lose me etc etc
I jsut dont know what to do, i know he hasn't been physically unfaithfull but it knocks me right back down, im good enough to shag once in a while and keep pregnant and looking after the kids but he would rather get his jollies from a voice on the end of the phone

lack fo sex is not a good enough answer is ist

( think you are doign pretty well on that fornt tbh)

We do have sex whilst im pregnant and still do it a couple of times a month but im always the one who starts things, and so he is getting some....
Ihave been pregnant 5 times in 4 years so he must have plenty really, so why he needs the extra titilation..

only he knows the answer to that i'm afraid olive so you need to ask him....but you know that already.....

ok if this is truly the situation then he is passing you over in preference for sex lines. That is fundamentally wrong.
different if you were not having sex and you agreed to his relieving himself in others ways. When it affects your actual sex life like this it amounts to a breach of fidelity.

I'm sorry he sounds like a shit.

Thats it exatcly, why use these lines when he has a real woman ready and waiting, i make the effort to make a pass for him, it wouldn't kill him to put the reciever down and do the same for me.

OK so this is now about the fact he's exploiting women is it

thats a WHOLE different issue

Ididn't say that

bet your pleased you started this now aren't you Olive

I guess thats where we disagree dittany as I would say that achieving sexual release in this way doesn't necessarily equate to betrayl and doesn't necessarily have anything at all to do with the relationship. IF thats what he's doing and of course thats a big if as these things can so easily become addictions and I do accept the difference between mags/movies and a live voice at the end of the phone.

4andnotout - sorry hun, that wasn't meant to imply thats was your point in any way. I do hope you find a way to move through this with your DH and hopefully even though you probably disagreed with my posts they've given you another perspective especially of the fact you feel its a personal insult

that is the joy of MN though Pheebe everyone is free to express their opinion and give other points of view to debate

ooo i forget , you can't have any!

It certainly is sparkles and its why I sometimes do tend to play devils advocate a bit to try and stimulate debate and perhaps get people to see things from a different point of view (not always my own) even though I often get flamed for it

update
DD2 is in her own bed asleep and so now have to tackle dp Wish me luck!