Should I be upset?

[Floss9791]

I’ve been seeing a guy for 4 months, things have been going slowly but well but yesterday I sent a message saying I missed him (I’m on holiday) and thought he was cute and he replied with a sick face emoji.

He said my message was a bit “pass me a sick bucket”

it’s really really upset me, because I am sensitive and was only trying to be nice

I'd ditch him if I'm being honest

I’m shocked!! That’s awful. Block him now

He's an arse.

Throw him away.

I would find a message such as yours a tad needy but there’s no way I’d reply with that emoji.

Equally, you’re not wrong for wanting to let him know - you’re just incompatible. Sling him back, he’s not for you.

Some people (men and women) would feel the same about the message, he might be joking around thinking hes playing it cool or being funny (hes not)- but either way sounds like youre not compatible. Having someone that matches your needs in terms of affection and sweet nothings is good.

What an emotionally immature fool.

This is just the tip of the iceberg and shows you exactly how he deals with emotions.

He isn’t going to make a good life partner if he can’t talk about surface level feelings like that let alone deeper issues.

Bin him off, you deserve more.

You’re not suited.

I probably would have replied with that emoji too tbh… BUT would have made sure you realised it was mostly in jest.

Did he say anything in his message about missing you? Or / and doing something when you’re back?

Good grief, I would never message him again. How DARE he! I hope you have too much pride to reply or ever text him again.

Even if he thought your message was a bit sickly and cringy, it was rude of him to respond like he did.

Oh that was very mean of him. You're not suited. Don't message him again.

Tbh your message would have made cringe but I wouldn’t have replied with a 🤮

I’d probably had just said something neutral and brushed over it.

The fact he thinks that’s an ok response shows you’re not compatible

I’m not a clingy or emotionally showy person and even I would tell someone I missed them. Surprised at some of the replies saying they agree it’s too much. He’s an idiot.

To cringey.
Its not cute is it.

Thank you for your views, I’m not going to message him again, if he messages me I’ll let him know he upset me and leave it at that, depending on his response, I may just stop communicating and save my self respect and a broken heart.

guess that all he wanted was sex and fun … not for me

I wouldn't have found that reply too dreadful tbh. He's either ribbing you a bit or doesn't do gushy stuff. Do men like to called 'cute'?

Agree!! I’m quite reserved but if I can’t tell the man I’m in a relationship with I miss him I wouldn’t feel safe to express my feelings at all.

Bit dramatic this.

I would reply 'Jesus Christ - Rude!' and then make no further contact until I return from holiday and until HE has contacted ME. Actions have consequences

That's horrible. Passive aggressive bullying to an extent, even. I'm a guy, and I'd never reply like that to a girl that if she sent me a nice wee message like that. Dump the arsehole.

I think you’re leaping a bit to think because he responded like that to your message then he was only after sex.

There's enough responses saying they would find your message cringey - that doesn’t mean they all only want sex just that people see things differently.

Personally I’d reply ‘rude’ or a 👍 - his response will tell you all you need to know.

Though I do understand you do t want to message him again so maybe leave it and see if he contacts you

Emotionally immature? ✅
More worryingly - does it also mean ‘I don’t miss you, if I did I’d never say so, I don’t want to get emotionally involved?’
If someone says ‘I don’t care’: best believe them

Oh love!

Your feelings are totally valid.
what a crappy response to such a lovely message.
Either he’s not used to nice women and lovely messages ! Has a low opinion of himself , or is an absolute arse.

what is he like normally?

He’s already showed you who he is, what more do you want?

Any excuse you’re going to get after asking a question about this is going to be said purely to make you drop the subject but it isn’t going to change who he really is and how he views and uses his feelings.

^ this.

Don’t rush into a decision about ending it right away.

Try to switch off and enjoy your holiday, Focus on having a good time and making good memories,

If he’s serious about you, he’ll realise he’s probably said something wrong and message you to apologise / acknowledge this and put things right.