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Idontjetwashthefucker · 21/08/2025 11:27

noidea69 · 21/08/2025 10:40

Bit dramatic this.

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I don't agree, he was very unkind with his response whether he agreed with it or not, I certainly wouldn't be messaging him again

Account734 · 21/08/2025 11:31

He sounds like a prick. I'd bin him. I wouldn't want to be with someone I couldn't be honest with because my honesty makes them need a sick bucket.

SnowflakeSmasher86 · 21/08/2025 11:43

He’s a shit. I’d just ghost him after that tbh. 4 months is long enough to know if you like someone and he clearly isn’t that into you if he reacts like that. Sorry :(

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Floss9791 · 21/08/2025 11:43

nail on head right there … I’m a single mum of two adult boys, I work for the emergency services and see and hear about death and the worst of humanity everyday so I wear my heart on my sleeve and say what I feel because tomorrow isn’t a given x

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Iwasphotoframed · 21/08/2025 11:48

This has all the hallmarks of anxious (you) avoidant (him) attachment. I find avoidants so difficult to deal with their inability in to validate any emotional expression whatsoever so I’d definitely throw him back.

Runlikesomeoneleftgateopen · 21/08/2025 11:48

He sounds like a twat.

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Floss9791 · 21/08/2025 11:58

Account734 · 21/08/2025 11:31

He sounds like a prick. I'd bin him. I wouldn't want to be with someone I couldn't be honest with because my honesty makes them need a sick bucket.

That’s how I feel, right there x

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PersephonePomegranate · 21/08/2025 12:00

I agree I'd find that really cringey at only 4 months, but the right person for you wouldn't think so.

If it was a joke on his part, then your humour is completely different and not suited.

I think I'd match his tone and reply something like: 'think I've changed my mind 🤣' then leave it to see what happens next. I certainly wouldn't be telling him he's really hurt me!

VeryStressedMum · 21/08/2025 12:29

He is horrible. Find your self worth and block this man. If you message him again all it will tell him is that he is free to treat you anyway he likes.

Gymbunny2025 · 21/08/2025 13:28

Iwasphotoframed · 21/08/2025 11:48

This has all the hallmarks of anxious (you) avoidant (him) attachment. I find avoidants so difficult to deal with their inability in to validate any emotional expression whatsoever so I’d definitely throw him back.

I understand he seems avoidant but how does saying you miss your partner make someone anxious? I’d say it’s healthy!

iamnotalemon · 21/08/2025 13:40

I think after 4 months it’s not needy to send a message like that to him! He sounds really immature - not sure his response could be considered a ‘joke’.

TwistedWonder · 21/08/2025 13:42

People are all different. Some would find the OP’s message cringey and a bit needy, others would find it adorable - neither group are wrong, just not compatible with each other.

I don’t think anyone wouldn’t find his response rude regardless of the original message

DirtyBird · 21/08/2025 14:48

I'm going against the grain too- I think he was a bit mean. No need to say you're needy even if he felt that way. He could've just sent a heart emoji back or said I enjoyed the time too.

And maybe i'm biased because my last relationship was with someone who was mean and said things without care for my feelings. I think feelings matter, and I've been in situations like this and even if I don't feel the same way i say something nice back.

He could've been nicer, I would let this pass but if continues to minimize or put down your feelings I see that as a serious red flag.

workshy46 · 21/08/2025 15:31

Dump .. he doesn’t care about your feelings at all. Even if the message was cringy no way would I point it out and humiliate the sender if I cared about them at all. I doubt he will contact you and if he does it’s just for sex. I’d move on personally.. how anyone could suggest otherwise 🤷‍♀️ Although standards on this site are in the toilet from what I can see and women are willing to put up with anything if it means having a man

Owly11 · 21/08/2025 15:40

It sounds like you are incompatible. He probably has an avoidant attachment style which is likely going to rub you up the wrong way if you are a sensitive soul. This is a taster of it, but it will likely become even more of a problem.

RedFlagsAllOver · 21/08/2025 16:06

Block him and enjoy the rest of your holiday

IkeaJesusChrist · 21/08/2025 16:42

Ditch him, he's emotionally stunted.

Boomer55 · 21/08/2025 16:47

Floss9791 · 21/08/2025 08:16

I’ve been seeing a guy for 4 months, things have been going slowly but well but yesterday I sent a message saying I missed him (I’m on holiday) and thought he was cute and he replied with a sick face emoji.

He said my message was a bit “pass me a sick bucket”

it’s really really upset me, because I am sensitive and was only trying to be nice

4 months and “cute”comments would have me reaching for the sick bucket, to be honest.

Iwasphotoframed · 21/08/2025 16:58

Gymbunny2025 · 21/08/2025 13:28

I understand he seems avoidant but how does saying you miss your partner make someone anxious? I’d say it’s healthy!

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What other posters are characterising as the OP being needy I think is an anxious attachment, it shows up as needing reassurance more than is typical. The dynamic though is very common where because they are polar opposites they are attracted to one another.

PrincessASDaisy · 21/08/2025 17:19

Iwasphotoframed · 21/08/2025 16:58

What other posters are characterising as the OP being needy I think is an anxious attachment, it shows up as needing reassurance more than is typical. The dynamic though is very common where because they are polar opposites they are attracted to one another.

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I don’t think being hurt by a sick emoji in response to ‘I miss you’ is needy. It’s not like he replied nicely and she didn’t think it as enough. He replied in a mean way.