Asking to borrow money?

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If an ex that you have children with asked to borrow money would you give it to them? Not a huge amount (For context they pay no maintenance)

Nope.

Of course not, why would you even ask this question?

God, no (obviously assuming that this isn't going to impact your children in some way, but even then probably no).

What don’t they pay maintenance?

Fuck no.

No maintenance payments as he is exempt. Someone told me I was wrong for not giving him the money.

No

No. But out of interest, how much was it?

Yes, I'm nosy

No!

Absolutely not.

No. Why does he need it? You know you’ll never see it again.

He’s exempt from providing for his child/ren and has the cheek to ask you for money. I’d of said no as well. Why didn’t the person saying you were wrong for not lending him money step up and lend him it?

£40 for food apparently.

If he paid maintenance every month on the dot and was always helping out and things yes. Considering he doesn’t then no. He’s essentially taking money from his kids that he never gives.

I'd loan them the bus fare to the job centre but that'd be about it.

No don't give him anything.

I’ll tell them to go to a food bank if that was the case.

Who said you were wrong? Your ex MIL?

Absolutely do not lend him any money. Chances are you won't get it back and this will lead you to a slippery slope of him asking for more again and again. There are food banks around for emergency food and those he can register with if he really is hungry.

Does it not depend massively on the relationship you have with them now? If you co-parent we'll ( despite the no maintenance) and are on friendly terms, I absolutely would and I have. If you aren't and there is a massive backstop then probably not. Context is everything

No a man I was speaking to about it who doesn’t know him

Well he is wrong. Perhaps he also borrows money from his ex partner?

No way, you need every penny to provide for his children. Google local food banks for him, I presume he has no internet if he cant afford food, if you want to be generous give him half a loaf a couple of eggs and a tin of baked beans.

How is he exempt from supporting his children?

Didn't know it was possible for people to be exempted from paying CMS, even if they were on benefits I know they pay a small amount.

Anyone back to your question. The short answer is no. The long answer is hell no. Yes - suggest a food bank

I regularly lend the ex money BUT I always get it back so dont really have a problem with it ... for context we do 50/50 and split all child related costs down the middle (even xmas/birthday) I've just taken DS on a three week holiday and he also contributed half of DSs share of that cost as he has no intrest in holidays so wouldnt have taken him away ...

No way. Not one cent.

Laughable if he's not even paying maintenance to support his children.

Tell whoever told you you were wrong to not lend him money to lend him money themself and fuck off.