Asking to borrow money?

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If an ex that you have children with asked to borrow money would you give it to them? Not a huge amount (For context they pay no maintenance)

I would help him get food not £40 worth though. Is he linked up to all the food banks/apps he can use?

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If someone on benefits has priority debts (like council tax) then they can be exempt if their income lowers enough.

Child maintenance, shamefully, isn't a priority debt over fines and council tax.

If he pays no money to support his children, what makes him think you have spare money to support him. An absolute micky take just to ask, where does his money go, if he doesn't give any to you and can't afford food?

The answer is obviously not a chance.

Why would you get him food? He's a grown man with children (that he doesn't support) he can look after himself.

I would give him a loaf of bread and some beans.

If they pay nothing towards their kids I'd never lend them anything. Deadbeat waste man.

Why doesn't he pay? Go through CMS? Tell him you'll block him if he asks you for money again, and tell him how much he owes you for the children. It'll be thousands.

I wouldn’t lend them a penny! Cf!

Nah- let him starve! Just as your children would if they were relying on him paying maintenance.

No but I'd laugh myself hoarse should he ever have the nerve to ask. Adults that aren't my DC can get on with it.

I love these people who like spending other people's money for them. If your friend is so bothered she can loan him the money.

£40 for food. This time.

Um no of course not, and I’d be side eyeing the bloke who thought you should, I’d assume he often puts his own hand out.

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Thanks, well I’m glad I stuck to my guns then. We don’t live near each other and he didn’t have any money to travel apparently so giving him any food wouldn’t have been an option.

Maybe point in the direction of foodbanks/community fridges in his area/ olio app

You are already subsidising him by paying for and raising your shared children, he can go help himself.

Yanbu.

Does he have time with your children?

i doesn’t sound like it but if he does send them with a packed lunch and food for them only

if he is genuinely hungry and can’t get help from a food bank or similar, as other people have said I’d give him a loaf of bread and 2 tins of beans

He visits them here so doesn’t need any food for them. He has lots of friends so not sure why he asked me as we barely speak.

Probably because you live far away enough you wouldn't see that he doesn't want it for food.

Or maybe he has 'borrowed' off all his local friends and he's just chancing his arm with anyone in his contacts list.

Either way, not your problem, not your responsibility.
He's already saddled you with full upkeep of his children, you owe him nothing.

Why is he exempt?

Pass the someone's contact details to your ex, tell your ex this person is keen to lend him money.
Then stop engaging with either of them.

Priority debts

Glad you didn’t.
Hopefully that will be the first and last time he asks!

He can go to hell in a hand basket. CF...A big NO !

That’s very true. I’m mean surely you would ask friends or family? they’ve probably got sick of him asking!