Can my Ex tell that I am obsessed with him? Do you know if your Exes are out there and would take you back?

[DollytheShape]

I am pretty crazy about my ex. We only saw each other for a few weeks and were no contact for the first couple of months after the break up. We’ve seen each other in passing a couple of times since then.

However, I am completely crazy about him. I honestly think he would be alarmed if he knew how much time I spend every day thinking about him, googling him and generally resisting the urge to text him. We have occasional text interactions (always started by me).

I think I am playing it pretty calm (no late night texting, no requests to meet up) but am I kidding myself? I watched a TikTok that said everyone can smell the energy?! What do you think?

I am not constantly messaging him?

We broke up 4 months ago and we were no contact for the first two. In the last two months we have messaged (briefly) 5 or 6 times.

I start the thread, he always replies, I reply to that and we are done. He never leaves a question unanswered but then I don’t really ask questions beyond, How are you?

UPDATE. Reader, I got him back.

[I just found this thread as I was looking back through my Threads I Am On]

Anyway - if anyone was following … he didn’t think I was stalking him, he thought I would make a good date for a thing he had a Plus One invite for. That was 10 weeks ago and we are now together.

OP, if you were 'together' for a few weeks, I doubt there was a 'break-up', it just didn't go further.

5 or 6 text or email conversations over two months equates to more than one per fortnight. I have beloved friends I don't speak to that often. Why are you contacting him at all?

Haha juat saw the update. Still, 10 weeks does not make a relationship!

Well it turns out it is 10weeks plus some months pining for each other 😊 and fortunately we have both agreed it makes a relationship in our case.

Zero stalking. (But yes he knew I was into him).

Dolly, there's a reason the texts are only ever instigated by you.

Yes he'll know but not by feeling the energy. He knows because you continue to contact him despite the relationship being over and with zero encouragement from him.

I'm sorry OP, if he wanted you in his life you'd be in it

EDIT - Typo

Good stuff, well done OP. I hope it works out for you 😊

I really hope you're not about to strain yourself under the back-breaking work of keeping him. You've contacted him several times, he knew you were interested, but he only resumed contact when he needed a plus one for an event? And now he's decided he wants a relationship, because he probably didn't find another person (hence still being single)?
Enjoy what you have going on now, but be vigilant he's not just in until someone else comes along. I hope it works out 👍🏾.

All mine have expressed their regret at not marrying me at some point.

Let’s see how long it lasts!

I only know if the man is objective about it, aka show direct attention to me or I see him stalking me etc. Men often use to be more direct in showing their interest, and women have the more indirect ways like seeing social media, thinking etc. Anyway, that aside, the big issue is not if your ex know. It's what it gives to your life. You should either act to get him back, or find a way to move on from this limerence. This is not healthy for you.

Ps: now I read the whole thread. Congrats for getting him back. I hope you have a great life and he is the one!