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Told to stop being needy

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Tumblingthroughlife · 18/08/2025 19:21

I've been in a relationship with this guy for the last 6 months . Everything's been going really well and we recently discussed moving in together in another 6 months all being well. It was him that initially brought this up . We just spent 2 weeks together, both off work , and I thought we'd had a great time. He's gone fishing today, and I thought I'd send a nice message to him saying how nice the last couple of weeks had been and that I wished we could do it all the time. He didn't respond to that but sent me another unrelated message. So I jokingly replied saying something along the lines of 'I'm glad you feel the same'. He sent me a reply saying he was busy fishing 'stop being so needy😆" with a laughing emoji. But that he'd had a nice time too. I don't know what to think and I'm spiralling. I haven't messaged him back. But I feel like this a sign that he's fed up of me . He was fine yesterday and this morning so I don't understand .

OP posts:
ACynicalDad · 21/08/2025 08:34

One of those times when the joke actually hits the nail on the head.

MellersSmellers · 21/08/2025 09:29

JLou08 · 19/08/2025 18:52

You're overthinking this. If I'd been with someone for 2 weeks and was enjoying a day relaxing without them I'd be slightly anoyed at your texts but it wouldn't be that deep. I'd probably send a similar reply in a jokey way to let you know you are being needy without being mean about it.

Agreed. He wanted a bit of down time and receiving your text irritated him slightly. He tried to soften the "needy" comment by adding an emoji but don't be misled by that, the feeling was real.
He seems to genuinely like you, you need to relax OP

Fluffyblackcat7 · 22/08/2025 11:51

Tumblingthroughlife · 18/08/2025 19:21

I've been in a relationship with this guy for the last 6 months . Everything's been going really well and we recently discussed moving in together in another 6 months all being well. It was him that initially brought this up . We just spent 2 weeks together, both off work , and I thought we'd had a great time. He's gone fishing today, and I thought I'd send a nice message to him saying how nice the last couple of weeks had been and that I wished we could do it all the time. He didn't respond to that but sent me another unrelated message. So I jokingly replied saying something along the lines of 'I'm glad you feel the same'. He sent me a reply saying he was busy fishing 'stop being so needy😆" with a laughing emoji. But that he'd had a nice time too. I don't know what to think and I'm spiralling. I haven't messaged him back. But I feel like this a sign that he's fed up of me . He was fine yesterday and this morning so I don't understand .

The laughing face emoji tells me that he was totally joking, you are overthinking and have no need to worry.

If he is comfortable enough to joke about it, you can relax and enjoy the intimacy.

StrokeRecovery25 · 23/08/2025 12:19

PInkyStarfish · 20/08/2025 05:08

You’ve given him the ick.

I also think that after only six months you’re discussing moving in is off putting.

You do sound needy and most men hate that.

This is not going to be a lasting relationship.

You're being ridiculous & nasty. Behave.

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