boyfriend has a brother and 2 sisters, one sister and brother live close by. The sister who lives further away had arranged to come and stay with the local sister. For context I was actually messaging her the same day she was visiting but she never mentioned it.
Both sisters do not like the other brothers wife, they have openly said how they avoid her and make it difficult for her attend things everybody else is invited to… i.e the clever idea of arranging something when they know she is working. I don’t like this behaviour it seems mean and must make it difficult for the the wife.
I have always been very welcoming and made lots of effort which isn’t always reciprocated but the sisters have each other and I am an only child so appreciate I’m not at all needed or important to them. I have come to the relationship with a child, the sister who lives further away has a child and the brother does as well. I have invited them all to his birthday party, but my message hasn’t been read. I ask about their kids and often spend time with the brothers son who is a similar age to my child.
i had pre planned a day trip which the sisters knew about, they come to our house with a cake as it is the sisters sons bithday next week, they have candles and then their brother and his son also turn up. My boyfriend calls me when I am an hour away and he says the sisters have said they will see me tomorrow (they never replied to my previous message and this hasn’t been arranged) and he says they’ll be gone by the time I’m home but be wanted to check how far away I was as they are about to leave but would hang on for me.
Anyway, they then stay another 45mins, and leave just before I get home…. I felt a bit disrespected as it’s our home and it felt like me and my son had not been considered. I just wanted my boyfriend to understand how it looked. (Planned so we couldn’t be there). I don’t have family, my mum passed when I was young and my dad lives in another country now. I got on so well and was so accepted by two exes families that this just feels odd.
i am probably being sensitive but also worry they maybe don’t like me. I feel awful as I stupidly said how it made me to my boyfriend and he defended them which didn’t feel nice.
The father of my child had an affair, we were together for over a decade. My boyfriend has a big problem with me having a relationshop
with my exes parnets (son’s grandparents) so I’ve ended it. I don’t see them, unless I have to. I guess I am feeling a bit like I lost so much of my family through marriage and it’s why it stings a bit.
I feel childish and I certainly do not want to make things difficult for my boyfriend. Family is important and he should have a close relationship with his sisters and of course do things on his own with them. Don’t know why this stung so much, I feel so silly and disappointed in myself.