Dealing with constant emotional emotional and verbal abuse.

[Jane370]

My partner has become increasingly verbally and emotionally abusive towards me I cant go a day without him. Starting an argument over something minior calling me derogatory names or raising his voice .I'm called a f ing spastic a cxxt an idiot retard the other day he called me fat he threatens to cheat on me .He causes scenes in front of neighbors and bad mouths me .

if I tell him to leave my home he starts abusing me over messages or calling multiple times on private numbers he's even gone as far to make fake Facebook profiles to abuse me he never apologises for anything and blames me so it's always my fault for him saying these things and he calls me the abusive one .

It's begining to take it's toll on my mental health and I'm suffering from anxiety and panic attacks and my self esteem is rock bottom .

He keeps saying things like no one cares about me I have no family because they have passed away.

I'm trying to make a plan to leave but I'm struggling where to begin .

I am also connected on no social media platforms - another vehicle for people to track and abuse.

I set up an anonymous account on FB with no friends so I can chat on health groups.

When he threatened me I froze as he was literally shouting at top of his voice

He's a bully. Picking on a disabled woman is total shit house behaviour.

It's scary because you have no support network. But you can make one, through the GP, Adult Social Services, someone in the Police when you call them. Don't tell him what you're planning ( lock change as a priority and going anonymous on SMedia) as well as door cam.

Trying to convince you that you're the problem and saying everyone believes them is a common abuse tactic.

I had a massive 6 ft 4 drunk prick sibling threatening to punch me in my own home that I put him up in whilst I was battling multiple devastating illnesses. Because I'd asked the tit to stop raging at the football. It's what they do when they think they can get away with it.

It's scary but you can get this prick to go and leave you alone with support as outlined above.

Call the police.

I have deleted my Facebook and sleep with my phone on airplane mode.

Kindly OP, are you going to do any of the things that we have all suggested to end this awful situation?

I will speak to womens aid tomorrow and see if I can speak to My GP so it's documented .

But please be kind as I do suffer from bad anxiety and it's taken a lot to come and post on here .And appreciate everyone's e
Help and advice .

Please do and also check out the link I posted earlier today. They can help you. I would absolutely prioritise getting the locks changed too. Keep us posted and keep going!

He's not your partner. If you get the locks changed so he can't get in, a huge source of your anxiety will disappear.

You can speak to the Police, to Womens Aid, and your GP, but while you're still referring to him and thinking of him as your Partner, answering the door to him and letting him contact you on the phone then what they'll be able to do to help you is negligable.

They can support you, they do not have a magic wand OP.

Are you ok @Jane370 ?

Call the police to get him out. Change the locks and get family support if needed.