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Hiding mounjaro from husband

28 replies

Teacherontherunningmill · 30/07/2025 22:46

So I have been overweight since having my children, not morbidly but just in a permanent cycle of diets weight gain/ loss but never more than a few pounds here and there. At 45 I have had enough so spent a considerable amount of time looking into mounjaro. I spoke to my husband who was really not keen, said at the end of the day its my choice but he didn't like the idea. I went ahead anyway. I feel so sick about not telling him. I am 3 months in , lost a stone and feel so good. But now panicking he will find out maybe via my medical history or something. I cant bring myself to tell him, can I ask my Dr to put a note on my file to say he doesn't know?

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 30/07/2025 22:52

Why would he have access to your medical records? And why, when all he's said is that he wasn't keen on the idea but it was your decision (which is a perfectly reasonable position to take, to have an opinion but respect your own autonomy) would you be scared of telling him?

There's a good chance that he's worked it out in any case and is saying nothing because, as he's already said, it's up to you what choices you make.

Frodoo · 30/07/2025 22:54

How would he be looking at your medical records? He said it was up to you, so just be like I’ve done it and happy with it

TheChosenTwo · 30/07/2025 22:56

I haven’t told my dh. I’ve been on it 9 months and he’s never asked and I’ve never told him.
He knows I’ve adjusted my diet and am keeping active (like I always did tbh) and have cut out all the crap.
I wouldn’t be scared to tell him but he’d not really understand the difficulties of managing my weight with insulin resistant PCOS and i don’t really feel the need to explain it to him. It’s my body and my choice, it didn’t need to be a group decision.

SilenceInside · 30/07/2025 22:56

Yes you probably can ask the GP not to tell your DH anything about your prescription medication, and I think they wouldn’t in any case. But, it’s probably a lot easier to tell him than you’re worrying about. I would just say that something along the lines of “you’ve probably noticed I’ve been losing weight and eating differently, well it’s down to starting Mounjaro, if you remember I said I was thinking of doing so and it’s been going well for me so far”. And then just move on.

Rizzz · 30/07/2025 22:58

Does he not notice it in the fridge?

Either way, why are you hiding it just because he's not keen?

TheChosenTwo · 30/07/2025 23:01

Rizzz · 30/07/2025 22:58

Does he not notice it in the fridge?

Either way, why are you hiding it just because he's not keen?

I’ve never kept mine in the fridge.

Bobnobob · 30/07/2025 23:04

Hang on, he said it was your choice but he’s not keen. So why not tell him that you agree, it is your choice and you’ve made it?

GhoulNextDoor · 30/07/2025 23:04

I mean I suspect it isn't your actual GP prescribing the medication as it's so difficult to get on the NHS. But your partner has no right to your medical information. He may however notice the excess costs, which is why I think it's best to come clean unless your finances are completely separate.

gishgalloping · 30/07/2025 23:14

Lots of people don't tell their spouses about taking Mounjaro. I don't think you need to feel sick about it. You told him what you wanted to do and he agreed it was your choice. I wouldn't feel guilty in the slightest.

Dancingintherainxxx · 31/07/2025 00:11

How high was your starting BMI ? Majority of patients will lose a stone in the first month. Did you see your GP for a perscription?

KitsyWitsy · 31/07/2025 00:16

I can’t imagine having a husband I couldn’t tell about something so benign.

Blueberrycake12 · 31/07/2025 00:23

Are you scared your own husband will judge you? This is really sad.

Shoxfordian · 31/07/2025 06:37

It doesn't sound like you've got it on the nhs so it won't be in your medical notes there anyway unless you've separately told them

Why do you feel you need to keep it a secret?

Meadowfinch · 31/07/2025 06:44

Firstly, he has no access to your medical records

If you're buying it off the web, it won't be in your medical records anyway

If you had discussed it with him and now you've lost a stone easily, unless he is very stupid, he already knows. It will be pretty obvious.

Why would you worry about him knowing? I assume it is your money, and it's definitely your body.

SilenceInside · 31/07/2025 06:49

Private prescriptions from online pharmacies can and do appear in your medical records. Many pharmacies will automatically send a letter to your GP to notify them of the prescription. My private prescriptions for Mounjaro appear in the Medicines section of the NHS app, as my GP surgery uploads the letter and the medication details each time they receive the letter. Not all online pharmacies do this automatically but many do.

VashtaNerada · 31/07/2025 06:50

This sounds quite worrying to me. It’s your body and your choice. Is he very controlling? DH has been so incredibly supportive of me since I’ve been on mounjaro, I can’t imagine handling the side effects without him.

Firstholiday · 31/07/2025 06:56

Are you embarrassed to tell him? I would have been embarrassed if I was taking it to tell my ex because he was super fit and thought getting in shape was easy. He wouldn't have understood

MaidOfSteel · 31/07/2025 07:20

Won’t your husband be happy for you and that you’re feeling so much better in yourself? Using Mounjaro is nothing to be ashamed of.

If you’d really rather he not know, I guess you could contact your GP surgery and ask that they make sure nothing shows up.

I had to keep my Mounjaro in the fridge. How are you managing to hide it?

ellieinfrance · 31/07/2025 09:30

I haven't told mine either. I just don't think he'd get why it is such a big deal to me to lose the weight. I don't think he'd judge as such, but would see it as unnecessary and a waste of money. If he asked me outright I wouldn't lie, but I don't think he's going to!

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Teacherontherunningmill · 31/07/2025 10:03

ellieinfrance · 31/07/2025 09:30

I haven't told mine either. I just don't think he'd get why it is such a big deal to me to lose the weight. I don't think he'd judge as such, but would see it as unnecessary and a waste of money. If he asked me outright I wouldn't lie, but I don't think he's going to!

Yes I think this is exactly it. He's not controlling or anything like that. Just wouldn't get it.

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ellieinfrance · 31/07/2025 10:13

Teacherontherunningmill · 31/07/2025 10:03

Yes I think this is exactly it. He's not controlling or anything like that. Just wouldn't get it.

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At which point, I wouldn't worry about it. I'd feel uncomfortable about actually stating on my records that I don't want him to know. But my husband is generally unobservant! He can see I'm making healthier choices - but hasn't noticed that I've lost 2 stone so far. I keep mine in the fridge until I start the pen, wrapped in tin foil behind the pickles, jams etc. Then once started keep it in my drawers. There would need to be a seismic shift for my husband to put the washing away, so I think I'm relatively safe. I say crack on, enjoy getting slimmer, fitter, healthier and if you want to tell him in the future then do, and if not then don't.

Rallentanda · 31/07/2025 10:14

There's no way he should be able to access your medical records, or that a gp might tell him.

One thing I saw was that sometimes partners will feel sorry/sad that they can't do the comfort eating you used to do together: eg on the sofa watching a movie with ice cream or crisps. So they can get a bit resentful at change.

I think that's dickish behaviour if I'm honest but apparently it's understandable.

Is he an otherwise decent person, or is he bit unsupportive in other ways? Is he overweight himself and is feeling confronted? (Or is he a bit of a dick? Sorry to ask.)

My dh is using my mounjaro use as a way to eat more healthily: I am making meals, and have asked him to make meals, where I can have protein and veg and if he wants carbs then that's a separate item, not part of the main meal. Obviously we could have done this before, it's just given him a push. I'm saying no way to the red meat and cream type of food he likes to cook and which I love, but now find it easy to say no to. I'm not trying to boast, I was just wondering if he would be open to seeing it that way: yeah I am paying for it but it's benefitting us both iyswim.

MissionToSize10 · 31/07/2025 11:15

Ive not told my family either. Ive had it in the fridge on occasions too but no ones noticed! 🥸 there are mumsnet weight loss boards dedicated to WLI, cone over and join us

Queenofheart · 31/07/2025 11:24

TheChosenTwo · 30/07/2025 22:56

I haven’t told my dh. I’ve been on it 9 months and he’s never asked and I’ve never told him.
He knows I’ve adjusted my diet and am keeping active (like I always did tbh) and have cut out all the crap.
I wouldn’t be scared to tell him but he’d not really understand the difficulties of managing my weight with insulin resistant PCOS and i don’t really feel the need to explain it to him. It’s my body and my choice, it didn’t need to be a group decision.

This is me. I have lost 4 stone and my DH doesn't know I'm on it.

He thinks the same, that I have changed my diet, cut the crap and exercise more, which I was pretty much doing before without the results.

Go for it :)

Marble10 · 31/07/2025 11:31

I haven’t told mine either.
I order from a legitimate site but my dr wasn’t aware I was taking it. So I don’t think it is entered on your medical records, as normal medication would be. Why would he have access to this anyway?
Im now at the point I’ve taken it for 6 months, no way can I tell him now 😂

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