Just as it reads, so to summarise: I have a good friend who I met when our children were 7 years old (they are still great friends and are 23 now!) I remember when we met, she and I clicked straight away and as the years went by we were close and regularly met for walks, dinners out, couples’ dinners and drinks, and so on.
I went through a really bad separation and subsequent divorce five years ago. He cheated and left, I wanted to do counseling but he had already decided to stay with his new partner. At Christmas (bad timing) he told me he got engaged but was vague and said no date was set. I continued to meet this friend and we would go walking and talk and reflect quite a lot on things (she said her sister in law went through the same thing).
Just 2 months ago, she revealed to me that they were in fact getting married (before he had told me) and the date was set, but what she did not reveal (which I found out from ds) was that she and her husband were going to the wedding.
I feel outraged and betrayed (and also furious at myself for having confided in her). At the same time, she and her husband are very good people. I do know what to do, my first reaction was to not meet her again as I find it very hard to be friends with someone and to hold back massively on discussing personal information. My ex and I are amicable but I am absolutely not friends with his new partner. I feel like there is no going back, that I’ll have to distance myself from her.
Any advice?