Argument which I think has blown out of proportion! Can someone give me some perspective? Should I have apologised?
I got home at 10:45pm from meeting friends, DH works shifts and had been on early shifts but was not working the next day.
He knew I was going out - just casual local drinks with friends. He didn’t ask me what time I would be home or anything in advance and didn’t text me when I was out to check in.
When I got home he was grumpy and ranting about doing all the night time chores (taking the dog out and closing the blinds etc). He didn’t say hello or ask how I was or anything.
It became apparent that he was pissed off that I was out late. He said he wanted to get an early night and said if he had known that it would be 10:45 by the time I got back, he would have gone to sleep earlier.
I said I’m entitled to go out and if he wanted to know what time I was going to be home he could have asked. I didn’t know in advance the time I would be home as it was just drinks with friends.
This had escalated as now - the next morning - he’s still pissed because apparently I ‘never apologise’ and I should have just said sorry for keeping him up. He said if I just apologised everything would have been fine.
He said it’s fine to apologise for things that aren’t your fault (like, sorry I just trod on your toe). I said if I come home and he’s grumpy and rude I don’t immediately feel like apologising.
Are we both unreasonable? I struggle to know as I don’t feel like I did anything wrong but I also agree sometimes just apologising even if something isn’t your fault helps the situation.