Peeing on the toilet seat

[justmeandtheclan]

Just a rant really - why can men just lift the toilet seat- I wouldn’t mind the odd accident but everyday I have to wipe the whole toilet serval times a day just to sit and have a wee

Tell him! ( or them if it's sons as well as your OH!) That's pure laziness and unacceptable.

It’s not all men, it’s your man. You need to really drum this in to him that it’s not in. DH & DS never pee on the seat.

Why can’t some men, my DH and two sons have no issues.

I’ve spoken to him about it I’ve shouted at him about it 🤦🏻‍♀️ not my sons my partner. My sons are 3&5 and use the toilet a lot better than him

You have a lazy or thoughtless inconsiderate one, that’s why.

Take him up and show him the problem. Otherwise he will minimise it.

That little shake they do at the end sends droplets everywhere too. Disgusting. Why can’t they just use a bit of loo roll.

I have an ex that used to stand at the sink after a pee and and take a handful of water and wash his willy quickly - every time he went to the loo. So clean. Never smelled.

I started that too (a couple of squares of loo roll run under the tap, and wash myself with it while Im sitting over the loo as the wet loo roll drips a bit, and a couple more bits of loo roll to dry. Feel much cleaner.

If you have talked to him about it and he still persists in doing it then he is doing it on purpose.
He is doing it because he doesnt respect you. He is metaphorically pissing on you.

Absolutely disgusting behaviour.

Do you all put the lid down before you flush OP?

How does that stop someone weeing on the seat?

My DH sits down to wee, to avoid all that splashing.

Hand him a bucket and point him to a corner outside?

He is choosing to be a dirty prick because you are putting up with him pissing outside the bowl.

You should not have to chase him around the house but I would have him clean the bathroom as his household job and have him clean the seat and wash the floor and wall each and every time he sprays the toilet seat.

He says he’s in a rush to get out the door for work ect - which I could understand if he wasn’t doing it on his days off too. Me and the children definitely shut the lid but he doesn’t - the seat has literal puddles

Then you need to stop making statements and ASK him. “You are not a stupid man. You’re not incompetent and you manage to hold down a job. So WHY do you leave urine on the toilet seat?”

Then when he’s done blustering, gaslighting and trying to play it down you tell him “you know it disgusts me so either you WANT to disgust me and it’s some sort of act of resentment, or you don’t care about my feelings, or it’s some kind of sexual perversion and I want to know which”.

The answer is almost certainly that he doesn’t care about your feelings but that’s quite a hard thing to admit - so he probably won’t. This would be a deal-breaker for me because really it actually just IS one of those things. He either doesn’t give a shit about your feelings or he enjoys making your clean up his wee. There isn’t another explanation.

Ugh. That’s rank. And yet I bet he still expects tut to find him attractive. I couldn’t.

Because if he’s lifting the lid to pee, there’s no reason he can’t lift the seat at the same time. So if they are all shutting the lid, there’s no reason that the seat is down.

Your partner has no respect for you. Accidentally weeing on the seat is fine, it’s the attitude of “I can’t be bothered to clean up my own piss, she will have to do it for me”. It’s a genuinely horrible attitude to have.

No sex as long as the problem persists. It’s such a turn off you just can’t. Give him a reason to care.

This actually made me chuckle a little bit. It’s not like a deal breaker of the relationship for me we’ve been together 11 years and share 3 children. It’s defo not a fettish I think he’s just got lazy and comfortable. He doesn’t do a great deal around the house so I wouldn’t be able to give it to him as a chore to clean the bathroom . He works hard and I respect that he doesn’t want to come home and clean - he spends his free time with the kids and I get all the extra jobs done. It’s just a niggily thing that probably just wound me up a bit more this morning than yesterday

I hope you are asking him to clean it up every single time and not doing it yourself?
Can you check the state of the loo after he goes like you would with a toddler?

He works hard and I respect that he doesn’t want to come home and clean are you talking about cleaning the mess he is making on the seat? All men are able to do that even if they work FT!

He works hard and I respect that he doesn’t want to come home and clean

Expecting him to wipe wee off a seat so that you don’t have to isn’t exactly adding to his hard day. It’s absolutely basic.

As this is a chore that is only happening because of his lazy dirtiness, absolutely you can give him it, and the rest of the bathroom till he learns some basic manners. It’s simply not acceptable.

It's not accidental. It's entitlement. It's someone else's job to clean up. He is making you literally clean his piss. He is getting a sense of power from this.

It's not laziness. It's not being in a hurry. It's arrogance.

Sorry but what?? working hard and choosing to make you clean up his piss are two different issues

He is using the bathroom in a way which created work for you.

But i can see that he will continue to do that as you go "OBless him he is too important to clean up his on mess"

This is basic stuff for him to be getting right. Basic hygiene in his own home, basic manners to you because expecting your wife to clean up your LITERAL URINE is unbelievably disrespectful.

You're going to have to sit him down and tell him you want this to change.

Yuk.

Yeah it’s not all men. I’ve been married twice, got 2 sons and had a few long/short term relationships over the years… only one man would regularly piss on the seat, up the back of the lid and all over the floor. That was my first ExH. He once shit all over the seat and up the back of the lid and thought I was being unreasonable mentioning it never mind making him clean it up. My ex, like your DP/DH are disrespectful pigs.

No not at all , I want him to just grab a bit of loo roll and go round the seat atleast.