Disagreement led to being cut off for 4 days

[Lucyloo42]

A couple of weeks ago, I brought up concerns about the future of our relationship—specifically that I felt he wasn’t making much effort with me and including my children into his family plans . His response was to cut me off completely for four days: no calls, no replies, while leaving his location visible so I’d know I was being ignored. I initially gave him space, hoping he’d reach out, but by day 3 I felt panicked and convinced he’d ended things silently.

When he reappeared, he said he’d shut down from everyone due to financial stress and unresolved issues with his ex-wife. He apologised and admitted it wasn’t fair to treat people like that, especially me. I appreciated the honesty and was sympathetic as always, but I explained this kind of emotional abandonment triggers old trauma for me—it’s not something I can absorb again.

Since then, I’ve felt disconnected. His best friend and wife confided that although he’s struggling, it’s not okay to leave me in limbo—and asked me if he mentions our future - the truth but I didn’t say it to them , things he says have ended up more than often coming to nothing and that hit me hard.

I’m full of doubt now. Are these just fragile moments or well-crafted excuses? We only see each other once a week, and with limited face-to-face time, it’s hard to rebuild trust. I’m left questioning: is this acceptable behaviour because he’s struggling—or is it a sign we’re misaligned? Thanks ♥️

What a pig, so sorry it's turned out like this for you. The only thing you can do is grin and bear it. Like you have planned and done already, avoid him as much as humanly possible. Keep your chin up OP, it will soon be over.

What an arsehole.
How many days left OP?
Have you got some separate activities planned ?

thanks both, 2.5 days left of holiday, and while there are no separate plans, I’m keeping things simple. I don’t feel confident venturing far from the hotel especially with my little cherubs who can be monkeys at times—and I’m conscious of walking alone at night etc . There’s a beach nearby and the pool area is big enough for me to keep my distance. I’ll just throw myself into whatever they fancy and quietly potter about, staying out of the way.

Tonight confirmed what I already suspected. He changed his Facebook profile to a holiday snap of just him and his kids. The woman in question liked it—then quickly removed the like. That was enough. It won’t have made a dent in his world, but I wanted him to know I’m not as naïve as he thinks. I messaged him: told him she wasn’t fast enough removing the like , and congratulated him on keeping up the lies for the last 2 years, and said how wrong I was about him. I bought into it, unfortunately. And that’s its disgusting and cruel. I ended it with “enjoy.” All while he is in the hotel room next to us ! Just a joke how it’s evolved !.

Then I blocked him on phone . Deleted all SM posts. Switched off location tracking. Blocked every possible route of contact. I won’t even glance his way now (he said hi at dinner tonight after 48 hours of silence again ! ). I feel terrible for my kids ( and his) . This was meant to be a happy blended holiday that we had been looking forward to since new year , and it’s been turned into a circus. I will never allow anyone to do this to me again, I also feel bad I haven’t been able to spend final time with his children too as I’ve obviously got close to them .

It’s not much I know , but tonight I cut the final ties - was going to wait till on the plane . But I feel can breathe a little easier. That really was the final nail. Big girl pants on for the next couple of days—though I’m not looking forward to seeing him today, just in case he retaliates. But soon it’ll be time to head home, a few questions asked thanks to social media :( but I can then begin to heal with my two little rocks x

Could have written your post almost word for word two years ago. Exact same decided to stop talking to me on a blended family holiday, made me feel like shit, wouldnt talk to me, blocked me on fb but I knew already he was chatting to another woman he had had a fling with prior to meeting me. He had checked out before the holiday but wanted me to be the bitch to end things. The silent treatment was the worst, I felt I was begging him to talk to me. I have realised years later there is a valid reason he was single for so long before meeting me. Sorry to hear you are going through this. 2 years later and I am stronger than I have ever been and happier too if that helps.

Thanks for sharing that with me , it’s traumatic isn’t it . They don’t give two hoots . I think that’s what he’s doing to me
like you - pushing me and I’ve played into his hands for him to project his version back home - but cheating is cheating there’s never a feasible explanation for that . he’s a terrible liar too so his story will have holes and the personality switch is enough in itself and I know the truth regardless of what rubbish he spews. The fact he’s over the other side of pool now says it all - silence because he’s 110% guilty.
Im so glad to read you have got to the other side and sound bigger and better than before him , I’m dying to feel that as I’ve been so low since this poison started 6 weeks ago. Thank you x