Hi all,
I really need some advice. Stupidly, I looked through my partner’s phone when he left it at my house. I found regular texts and phone calls between him and his ex since the very start of us being together (3 years). They’re arranging to meet up in the next two weeks in a different city (she’s from abroad). She’s been saying how much she still loves him and wants his babies. He’s not responded to those messages but when she has said she misses him he says he misses her back.
The other thing is that he seems to portray to me that he has an issue with black people coming into the country and that white people are a dying breed (I struggle with racist the comments he makes about pointing out black/asian/Indian people when out and about… he even used to pick on my Asian looks - though I am white.) But - his ex is black?
In his search history - he has porn too - all black women.
I am going to end things tomorrow as there have been a lot of issues in general and this was the final confirmation of his lack of commitment to me (won’t marry me/share finances/wants children). How do I best end things with all of this information? I know I shouldn’t have looked… this relationship has given me much anxiety and low self-esteem that I guess I wanted to look for evidence and found it :(.