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Workplace relationships - re Coldplay

80 replies

changedwoman123 · 19/07/2025 23:26

I’m sure this is rife and they were just very unlucky! One of my managers lives with a colleague through the week and goes home to his wife at the weekend. Any more?

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BurntBroccoli · 20/07/2025 21:51

Yes happened at my work!

OneLemonGuide · 20/07/2025 21:53

Crazymayfly · 20/07/2025 12:21

Boss at work has worked his way through so many women at the office - from receptionist level to partner level (law firm). Has had about six longer term affairs in last ten years and many ONSs. His wife knows - she was his secretary (she was married at the time, only moved in together about a week before their baby was due).

Bonkers that she’s happy to live with him shagging his way around the local office but the relationship must suit her.

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Interested to know what is it about this man that makes him so irresistible to women!

Aspanielstolemysanity · 20/07/2025 21:54

incognitomouse · 20/07/2025 17:36

We have to complete a conflict of interest form which includes relationships in the workplace, so pretty sure I'd get sacked.

Same at our work.

And we usually all get a not very subtle reminder about the form just after some affair has become very obvious

There's so often a nasty power dynamic at play in an affair. Plus clearly a failure to focus on doing work during working hours. And it creates all kinds of conflicts of interests, particularly when it's people in senior positions

Alexandra2001 · 20/07/2025 21:58

No wonder directors are so keen to end WFH..... Office "Productivity" an all that.....

GettingHothothotter · 20/07/2025 22:06

GettingHothothotter · 20/07/2025 17:53

In teaching, everyone is having it off with each other. I worked in one school where three middle aged married deputy heads were all having an affair with three young gorgeous members of staff. In my last school the deputy head had an affair with a Maths teacher (she was married) and they ended up getting married. Then the head teacher had an affair with the geography teacher (both married) and they were always looking for hiding places on the school premises or arranging all day meetings off site. They both divorced and to my knowledge are still together ten years on.

Everyone always knows about the affairs too and that can be awkward. Anyway it’s rife.

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This was secondary by the way. Less opportunity in primary probably.

Letsgotosomewhereelse · 21/07/2025 06:28

NHS. Consultants and managers, consultants and nurses, consultants and junior doctors.

Absolutely rife

Aspanielstolemysanity · 21/07/2025 08:09

GettingHothothotter · 20/07/2025 22:06

This was secondary by the way. Less opportunity in primary probably.

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Two teachers at my primary were having an affair. They used to pop into each others classrooms and flirt with each other when they were meant to be teaching.

The male teacher's children were at the school. It must have been grim for them.

I knew the wife later on, through my work. She was a lovely lady but it was clear what an awful experience it had been for her. The whole village knew before she did.

Utterly grim way to behave

pourmeadrinkpls · 21/07/2025 08:20

It makes sense, your work mates are like family. The funniest is when they think no one knows and everyone knows 🤣

ConcernedOfClapham · 21/07/2025 08:32

Well, this has been a thoroughly depressing thread 😩

I’m off back to ‘You know you’re getting old when…’ 😃

Wish44 · 21/07/2025 08:36

Gawd…. So depressing. It’s a wonder any marriages survive!

married man has been having an affair with a single woman at my work for about 10 years. They completely deny it. Ridiculous

Aspanielstolemysanity · 21/07/2025 08:40

One of the most senior women at my work as has several affairs. All with heads of her different departments.
Two of the affairs had an overlap !
She seemed to think noone knew but we all did

brunettenorthern91 · 21/07/2025 08:42

GettingHothothotter · 20/07/2025 18:41

I know someone who works in Asda and she says all the staff are at it with each other.

In head office or store level? I worked at head office for 4.5 years and worked across and with most teams - no it doesn’t? My SIL worked there for 9 years before me and my husband still works there and can confirm, it’s not a thing?

I think back in the day (10+ years ago) there was a lot of dating amongst head office resulting in multiple now long term married couples across different teams. There are a few couples I can think of - but they just organically met at work and not some scandalous affair?

Not to say some of the older relationships (eg married for 10+ years now) may have started as affairs (I’d not know) but it’s not some pool of people dating other people now or sleeping with each other. Maybe back in the days when they had parties at head office for all the staff - but that’s about 7+ years ago!

Everyone is currently too busy being over worked, underpaid and not enjoying it - no time for romance!! 😂

Aspanielstolemysanity · 21/07/2025 08:42

Aspanielstolemysanity · 21/07/2025 08:40

One of the most senior women at my work as has several affairs. All with heads of her different departments.
Two of the affairs had an overlap !
She seemed to think noone knew but we all did

And although it's obviously a horrendous way to treat their spouses, it's also awful for employees. You can't escalate complaints about a manager if person you would have to escalate it to is.shagging that manager.
And while you are working furiously hard, your director is being paid 3x as much to flirt and shag on work time.

Dolamroth · 21/07/2025 08:53

I worked at a popular DIY store years ago and was shocked by how much shagging was going on in the whole store. The Christmas parties were something else!
I worked in the office and me and my immediate colleague were always 😯

PaperMachePanda · 21/07/2025 08:56

Civil Service is rife with it. My husband loves spilling the tea about his colleagues haha.

Teaching is the same. Sometimes I like to make one of those conspiracy maps of who has slept with who.

Workplace relationships - re Coldplay
SameOldMe · 21/07/2025 08:57

Its interesting for me as my exh was muslim and his dad had 2 wives. We had many conversations about this and his view was that a lot of men cheat in the western world, so having 2 wives means your less likely to. My issue alwyas was thats it not fair on the women who cannot have multiple husbands!! This is the kind of news story that he would raise and push his opinion.

Aspanielstolemysanity · 21/07/2025 08:58

PaperMachePanda · 21/07/2025 08:56

Civil Service is rife with it. My husband loves spilling the tea about his colleagues haha.

Teaching is the same. Sometimes I like to make one of those conspiracy maps of who has slept with who.

Grin
researchers3 · 21/07/2025 08:59

BigFatLiar · 20/07/2025 18:45

The first office I worked in was all female, mostly young, not entirely though. ONS's were all the rage even among the married or engaged. It was almost a competition to see who could have the most men.

We had a young lady who had an affair with her manager, he moved on after his wife became suspicious. She then had an affair with his replacement who later left. She had an affair with the next one who then transferred to another branch. Finally she had an affair with the next manager who left his wife and family for her. As far as I know they're still together.

We used to have company meetings. A couple of days in a hotel with people from all around the country. First time I went it was an eye opener ss nobody took any notice of who was sleeping with whom. Well not until afterwards when it was a source of gossip.

God, that's awful.

Aspanielstolemysanity · 21/07/2025 09:00

I'll never get why people who want to be promiscuous don't at least have the decency to either stay single, or find a partner who is happy to be in an open relationship.

It's the sense of entitlement to have their cake and eat (by sleeping around while expecting their spouse to stay faithful) thats so amoral

GettingHothothotter · 21/07/2025 09:01

The Asda person was on the shop floor and they did a lot of socialising/Christmas parties etc.

Aspanielstolemysanity · 21/07/2025 09:02

Aspanielstolemysanity · 21/07/2025 08:09

Two teachers at my primary were having an affair. They used to pop into each others classrooms and flirt with each other when they were meant to be teaching.

The male teacher's children were at the school. It must have been grim for them.

I knew the wife later on, through my work. She was a lovely lady but it was clear what an awful experience it had been for her. The whole village knew before she did.

Utterly grim way to behave

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Ooh and I have just remembered, while we were on our school residential the female teacher had a fling with the bus driver - so she cheated on her affair partner Grin

TheCurious0range · 21/07/2025 09:08

Lots of relationships and marriages where I work, not many affairs but one about 18 months ago both were married and work in the same team but different organisations like an MDT , she had only been married 4 months when she left her husband for the colleague, they now have a baby and another on the way! Big age gap too.
I work in criminal justice and you get it I think because people understand each other and what they're going through, why they might not be able to clock off on time, why their minds are elsewhere after a particularly horrific day. DH works in the same field as me now having retrained from a completely different career about 12 years ago at one point many moons ago were had the same line manager! We've taken different progression routes though, so we now often work in the same office but not in the same team. It's great having someone at home who understands the pressures of your work.

AnotherGreyMorning · 21/07/2025 09:09

And this is why I will never get involved with anyone ever again.

pourmeadrinkpls · 21/07/2025 09:14

SameOldMe · 21/07/2025 08:57

Its interesting for me as my exh was muslim and his dad had 2 wives. We had many conversations about this and his view was that a lot of men cheat in the western world, so having 2 wives means your less likely to. My issue alwyas was thats it not fair on the women who cannot have multiple husbands!! This is the kind of news story that he would raise and push his opinion.

Ha ha, well if you had two wives you wouldn't be able to find the time to cheat, that's for sure.

brunettenorthern91 · 21/07/2025 09:15

GettingHothothotter · 21/07/2025 09:01

The Asda person was on the shop floor and they did a lot of socialising/Christmas parties etc.

Ahh yes I can see that! My DH worked in stores for about 8-9 years from late teens to mid twenties and I think that was very very common! (A long time ago now though!)