Husband furious I took the bins out - WWYD?

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Bit of a daft one maybe but genuinely curious what others think.

DH has been in a strop since last night because I took the bins out. He was sat on the sofa watching the cricket, bins were literally spilling over, so I just grabbed them on the way out to the shop. Didn’t even think about it.

Anyway he’s now saying I “emasculated” him and “disrespected his role as a husband” (his words, not mine 🙄). Apparently bin duty is his thing and I’ve overstepped??

Told me I made him look useless and he’s now being all cold and sulky. I laughed at first but now he’s gone all moody and dramatic like I’ve committed some massive betrayal.

Is this normal?? I thought this kinda gendered nonsense was dead and buried but he’s proper taking it personally. Anyone else’s OH like this or is mine just being a numpty?

WWYD? Ignore and let him sulk or sit him down and tell him he’s being ridiculous?

What a silly little man. If doing the bins was really that important to him, he'd have got off his manly backside and seen to them before you got there. What's really eating him is that he prioritised the cricket and instead of wasting valuable energy telling him off, you got on with it. Either way draws attention to how remiss he's being and he doesn't like that. It's the middle of a hot July, but apparently you should live with an overflowing bin till he feels like sorting it.

Wtf I do the bins 99% of the time. We don't have his / her jobs

Blimey, a dinosaur. My husband’s pushing 80 and has never thought there are blue jobs and pink jobs.

What a cockwomble.

Are you Theresa May, OP?

What an absolute plonker!

To try and placate him, why not buy a new BBQ - he can go and play with that, which will help restore his masculinity and hierarchy within the household. 😂

Just tell him you will leave it for him from now on and he can do the washing etc any time and you won't mind at all. Does he do much else or is that his masculine contribution?

I used to do the bins all the time, my DH is home when it needs doing now so he does it, but reminding him takes more effort than me doing it really.

My God he's so easily emasculated that you'd have to argue that he has no masculinity to be relieved of by you.

Has he ever done this sort of thing before? If not, I’d be asking him if he was having some kind of medical problem or a mental health breakdown. If this is totally out of character and he’s normally a completely sane and rational adult, I think it’s so ridiculous, I’d be keeping a close eye on him.

If, however, this is just the latest in a long line of ridiculous things, I’d tell him that he was emasculating himself by behaving like an irrational toddler, he’s disrespecting you and your marriage and you’re losing respect for him by the second. So he either gets himself under control and talks about where that came from, or he packs his bag and finds himself a Time Machine so he can go back to the early 1900s.

I'm with @Topseyt123 on this. Completely agree!!

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This CANNOT be real.

He is emasculating himself by sulking like a child.

I would laugh in my DH's face if he did this.

I mean, if he genuinely used the phrase 'disrespecting his role as a husband', there's some really worrying thinking underlying that.

How do you think he sees his role as a husband generally?
And yours as a wife?

Dave, it's time for your performance review on "husbandly duties".

Bins: Not performed in a timely manner leading to trash around workplace and other team member having to do it. Does not meet standard, needs improvement.

Sulking: You've got this one nailed, Dave. I don't know if it's actually in your job description but I like to put something nice in performance lacking evaluations. 😀

You could rate him in other "husbandly duty " areas. It's 🙄but I'm not a fan of misogyny.

I'd respond by saying any time he wants to defeminise (?) you by cooking and cleaning that's just fine, for the record.

What a knob.

God, I have never felt as happy to be single after reading the op's post.

You are married to an overgrown toddler.

Why let the bins overflow if the job is so important to him. Is his ego that fragile he feels threatened by his wife taking the rubbish out. I agree that it would also give me the ick. I think I’d be more disgusted by his melodramatics than the bins

My children took charge of bins from 11, the kitchen bin gets emptied on set days so it is never full, it is routine and no one is seeing when the bin is overfull. They also put the bin out on collection day, one was in charge of recycling one the kitchen bin. My husband is still intact, no penis has dropped off.

DH happily watched me take the bins out at 8 months pregnant. He’s very equal opps.

Bin gate!! How could you OP 🤣… he’s obviously being daft but let him be Defender of the Waste if it’s so important to him.

I’m sorry, but you seem to have married a child. I recognise the signs. Does he have to tell you that he is going to do it, then that he is doing it, and then when he has completed the task so that you can give him the thanks he deserves?

Are you allowed to fill the car up with petrol or (shrieks) add washer fluid????

If taking the bins out is so important to his masculinity then you'd think he might do it a bit more frequently and not wait till it's over flowing. Knob head.

Poor little love. Assure him that he’s remasculated himself right up with his childish sulking so he can pack it in now. 🙄