Worst lie an ex partner has told you?

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Didn’t keep any of his weddding vows would be a start…

Yep. Kept none of his wedding vows. Living a double life with another woman.

He caught genital warts from a towel.

Yeah that too.

"I'm going on a work course for a few days"

He's signed up to join the military so would be gone for 12/13 weeks. We had 6 month old twins.

The worst about me was "She trapped me with pregnancy and I never wanted kids..." after we split.

Which he struggled to then explain to his new partner when I pointed out we'd had several rounds of fertility treatment that he had paid for!

"I love you."

He didn't.

If he did he wouldn't have cheated on me with my sister.

“ I’d never cheat on you” as I saw his plenty of fish profile He went away every weekend “ Helping a friend with house renovations” until the day I told him not to come back.,, he did briefly to bring my motability car back!!!

Not as terrible as these but this sprang to mind - “my wage packet fell down the drain as I left work”.

We were together 5 years and lived together but I came to visit some friends and family in my home town and stayed for a few weeks with my parents (around three) because they were quite a distance away and I didn’t drive at the time so was relying on train travel, while he stayed home for work.

For about two of those weeks we were apart, I struggled to get hold of him so in the end I just gave up and assumed that I’d been ghosted and we were over because we’d already been through a rough patch so I wasn’t that bothered, really. Then he rings me up out of the blue and tells me that the reason he hadn’t been in touch is that he’d been in a sudden life threatening accident and had had a kidney removed. He couldn’t believe nobody had informed me.

Of course, it was so implausible and he was a known bullshitter (never quite as bad as that, though) that I asked for evidence such as a scar, which there wasn’t one. Needless to say, we broke up very soon after 😂. I wasn’t born yesterday. How insulting expecting me to believe it. I do laugh at the ridiculousness of that lie still to this day when it pops up in my head.

”DD deliberately hurt herself and bruised her whole arm and then accused me of doing it to make me look bad”

obviously he did it.

He said he was no longer having sex with a woman he was friends with. Two years down the line it transpired that by the word "sex" he meant PIV. they were doing everything else.

A foreign ‘work trip’ which was all paid for out of family funds and strangely never reimbursed by his work, because apparently they’d changed their policy.

“no, there’s not a problem in our marriage - you must be imagining it”

Scapegoated an ex girlfriend as the OW so that he could carry on his affair with a junior colleague who I’m 99.9% certain already had a child by him

and the lies continue even after separation and divorce. To our kids:

Pre-divorce:” I’ll have an Open house and I want you all to know you can come and live with me whenever you want for as long as you want”
Post-divorce: to oldest adult DC who wanted to move for better transport links and job opportunities “no, it’s not possible to live with me. The house is a building site and unsafe” (despite having lived there himself for 3-4 years).
None of our kids has set foot in his house in the past 2 years, the reason being that he now has his secret other family living there. No one is allowed to visit. When DD last stayed over in 2023, she found some baby clothes in a drawer in the spare room and make up in the bathroom cabinet. But apparently he’s a single man living by himself.

I could write a book on his lies. He’s still living a lie now.

"I love you"
"She's just a friend"
"I used those condoms by myself".

All this while I was having treatment for cancer. The lies felt worse than the cheating.

When I discovered he’d had a one night stand, he said” in mitigation “ but I was thinking of you the whole time.

Wedding vows and much much worse. Vile man.

That’s utterly shite (I’ve also had cancer and was abused by my ex during treatment). Some people are just psychopaths. I hope you’re doing ok.

Thank you. I am two years clear now and I kicked him out over a year ago. He was also abusive but put on a very public show of being the doting partner. Meanwhile he was with the OW while I was having radiotherapy by myself.

I'm sorry this happened to you too. These men really are pondscum.

While we were together

You don’t need to worry about me not coming home, it is just easy to study with friends.

When we split up

Why didn’t you realise it was a problem when I wasn’t coming home.

Gaslighting bastard.

She’s just a friend. You’re paranoid

Oh and “I often forget to wear boxers” when he came home with no underwear on and suspicious stains on his trousers! Idiot

I've got an ex H that lies like this too.

Baffling and so much more damaging than any truth could be.

Wankers.

That he was straight

"I had cancer" (he didn't)
"I knocked someone over while driving" (he didn't, it was his excuse for only having a provisional license)
"Work has said I need to travel over valentine's day" (he was staying with the woman he cheated on me with in a hotel)
"I was born in 1984" (he was born in 1985)

The crazy list goes on. He's still telling lies now but it's been many years since we dated so not my problem 😏

I can't even begin to understand how someone could treat anyone in such a cold hearted manner.
Hope you're happier with your lot now.

So for context of how long this particular lie has gone on:
I met my exH, as a friend when I was 15, and he was dating a friend of a friend - I knew her just because we moved in the same circles, but didn’t know her particularly well. Stayed that way for a couple of years.
ExH and I entered into adjacent career paths, and stayed in semi-regular contact because of that for a couple of years. Then one day, I got a message from him telling me how his gf had cheated on him while he was out of the country, told me all about “the awful lies” she’d told him regarding the cheating etc and that it was over.
We started hanging out, which turned to dating. And then I started getting hounded on social media by his exGF. Didn’t think much of it, just figured it was bitter ex jealousy etc.
ExH and I went on to get married have DCs - the whole 9 yards. Then 8 years in, I left him. For many reasons, but it was absolutely the right decision.
Then a few years after that, his exGF got in contact with me, offering up a huge apology for how horrible she’d been to me in the early days of mine and exH’s relationship. She told me she was totally out of order and she thought I deserved to know the truth…….
She’d also got married, and my best friend (friends since childhood) photographed her wedding. While chatting with my best friend, the subject of my exH, me and his exGF came up. My best friend relayed to her what I’d always believed to be true: that the exHF had cheated and that why her relationship with exH ended….. Turns out, she never cheated on him. She dumped him…..six months into my relationship with him, when she found all his messages to me on his laptop when she was using it.
I was inadvertently “the other woman” and only found out about it 15 years afterwards 🫠🫠👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

I’ve had some fucking ridiculous lies told to my face but the one that both enraged me and made me laugh was being sent screenshots from some random girl that my cheating ex (also the father of my DD) was saying “believe me, I would never hurt you, the mother of my child cheated on me and I’d never cause someone else that pain”.

Flipped the script to try and gain this poor girl’s trust when he was the serial cheat!

Fucking men, abominable.