Well, the day finally arrived on Friday when DP proposed to me...............and of course i said yes !
Decided June time next year would be perfect timing for us.
We were so excited we rang round everyone on Friday night to tell them and every was thrilled for us until it got to me telling DP's DB's fiance (who in turn is my best friend).
She completely turned, said "You will be stamping on my toes by getting married before us"(they are marrying until May 2007), "You have really hurt my feelings", "Seems odd that you never even mentioned getting married before we did and now you want to do it before us". angry]
It is so pathetic but it has made me so angry ! Up until Sunday i was funing with rage but now i feel really hurt and upset.
DP's DB and fiance are making things really hard by involving other people - they were bitching to DP's DM about it all day sunday when we were there to defend ourselves.
DP's DM completely agrees with us - it is ridculous to expect us to wait for 3.5 years to get married just so we don't do it before them - she tried to tell them this on Sunday but they weren't interested!
They have chosen to get married May 2007 because they cannot afford to do it any sooner and they want their kids to be old enough to be involved - fair enough, everyone can make their own choices. I have always wanted a summer wedding which means us waiting until Summer 2008 before getting married.
We want to have another baby soonish but have decided we would prefer to get the wedding out of the way first and the try for a baby straight afterwards therefore there wont be too much of an age gap between DD and a new sibling (Propbably just short of 3 years)!
I don't even know why i am writing this to be honest - i thought i would feel better for getting it off my chest but i don't.
I just want to cry I can believe they are being like this and seriously believe we are doing it just to get married before them.
I could understand it if we were doing it 1,2,3,or even 6 months before them cos i'd probably be quite pissed off it if was me but it's a whole year.
I don't see how they can understand all of our reason and still be reacting the way they are - I just feel like shit and this is meant to be such a happy and exciting time.
Sorry, i don't know why i posted this. You will all probably tell me now that i am out of order.
I bet the post doesn't even make sense.