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Should he go back for the rest of the takeaway

37 replies

Goinganonforthis · 28/06/2025 20:55

Ordered Indian this evening, haven't had one in over 6 months. DH went to collect it, told him to check everything was in it. He didn't realise biryani comes with a separate sauce (or at least if he stopped to think about it, he does know this) so came home without the sauce for the biryani.Should he have gone back for it, 10 min drive? I had a glass of wine so couldn't get it. Wwyd in this case? Thanks.

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Disturbia81 · 28/06/2025 20:59

I wouldn’t have been too bothered, I wouldn’t have asked him to go back. I guess it depends what else you got or if you could share some of his sauce

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Goinganonforthis · 28/06/2025 22:31

Thanks. No, there was no other sauce to share, that's all I ordered and biryani without the sauce is like chicken tikka masala without the sauce!

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BrendaTheBlendeer · 28/06/2025 22:40

Yes, should have gone back and you kept the rest warm

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Goinganonforthis · 29/06/2025 09:48

Thanks for your reply. Well he didn't go back, and just started wolfing his down. I sarcastically said thanks for that and he told me to fuck off. I rang the takeaway and they delivered the sauce an hour later. 🙄

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PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 29/06/2025 09:50

Could you have nipped and got it? I wouldn't know about a separate sauce tbh, and I'd appreciate it if someone else did the return to the takeaway if something was missing.

FloraBotticelli · 29/06/2025 09:50

Would you have gone back for it if you were on your own?

Whatado · 29/06/2025 09:51

No I would have rang the takeaway and asked them to deliver a new dish with the sauce and given them back my food and told him to eat his and I wouldn't have thought the sauce came separately so wouldn't have realised it was missing either.

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Goinganonforthis · 29/06/2025 09:53

FloraBotticelli · 29/06/2025 09:50

Would you have gone back for it if you were on your own?

Yes, if I hadn't had a glass of wine. Totally. The dish was incomplete.

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Soontobe60 · 29/06/2025 09:53

I’d have rung them up and asked for it to be delivered straight away

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Goinganonforthis · 29/06/2025 09:54

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 29/06/2025 09:50

Could you have nipped and got it? I wouldn't know about a separate sauce tbh, and I'd appreciate it if someone else did the return to the takeaway if something was missing.

Thanks. No, I'd had a glass of wine so couldn't drive.

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Goinganonforthis · 29/06/2025 10:00

He has form for this, which is why I was pissed off. He would never do anything extra for me, like go back to the restaurant. Years ago he would have. He treats me with disdain these days. It's just another thing in a long line of things that show he doesn't really care. I would have loved if he'd said oh no, sorry about that, I'll go back and get it, can't have you eating it without the sauce, but no. Thanks for the replies.

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HappydaysArehere · 29/06/2025 10:12

I wouldn’t have worried him about the sauce. I don’t think many people would have known about it. I would have given them a ring if it bothered me so much. He did his best and probably didn’t miss something small like a sauce container. Certainly wouldn’t expect him to go back again.

CaptainFuture · 29/06/2025 10:15

Did you order the sauce separately? Always thought a biryani was a complete meal.

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Goinganonforthis · 29/06/2025 10:16

Obviously no one here eats a biryani occasionally!

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Goinganonforthis · 29/06/2025 10:19

A biryani is a dish with chicken, rice, spices. It also has a sauce. The sauce always comes separately. It's not an extra sauce that I paid extra for. In all the Indian restaurants and takeaways I've ever ordered a biryani from, this is the way it is served. The dish cost £16, so I bloody well wanted my sauce!

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Bonbon21 · 29/06/2025 10:29

I think this is just another sympton of your disappointing relationship. Are you actually happy? Do you want to stay with him?
This is more than a takeaway let down.

BarbaraVineFan · 29/06/2025 10:31

Sorry OP, he sounds selfish and unpleasant

MeringueOutang · 29/06/2025 10:32

I think people are missing the fact that the biryani sauce isn't a small tub of condiment sauce of similar size to cucumber raita, it's a big fuck off tub of sauce that's almost the size of a portion of rice. It's part of the meal. It's really obvious if it isn't there and OP YANBU to expect him to go back for it. It shows he's self-centred.

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Goinganonforthis · 29/06/2025 10:33

Thanks everyone, for taking the time to read my posts. I honestly don't know what to do, as I said this is just one of this type of incident. Anyway it's good to get different viewpoints. Cheers

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Goinganonforthis · 29/06/2025 10:34

MeringueOutang · 29/06/2025 10:32

I think people are missing the fact that the biryani sauce isn't a small tub of condiment sauce of similar size to cucumber raita, it's a big fuck off tub of sauce that's almost the size of a portion of rice. It's part of the meal. It's really obvious if it isn't there and OP YANBU to expect him to go back for it. It shows he's self-centred.

Thanks, that is exactly it!

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Wishimaywishimight · 29/06/2025 10:35

Him telling you to fuck off indicates a bigger issue than biryani sauce.

BarbaraVineFan · 29/06/2025 10:35

For those who are confused, the sauce is actually a vegetable curry. It comes in a container of equal size to the one with the rice and chicken and is an integral part of the dish, not an optional extra.

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Goinganonforthis · 29/06/2025 10:36

Wishimaywishimight · 29/06/2025 10:35

Him telling you to fuck off indicates a bigger issue than biryani sauce.

I agree. I'm still waiting on an apology but that won't come.

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CaptainFuture · 29/06/2025 10:37

You are right to be annoyed now I know more! How can he not have noticed half your meal missing! Thought it was an extra like a dip!

Trovindia · 29/06/2025 10:38

MeringueOutang · 29/06/2025 10:32

I think people are missing the fact that the biryani sauce isn't a small tub of condiment sauce of similar size to cucumber raita, it's a big fuck off tub of sauce that's almost the size of a portion of rice. It's part of the meal. It's really obvious if it isn't there and OP YANBU to expect him to go back for it. It shows he's self-centred.

I wouldn't even call it sauce, it's a curry. My husband has it and it's rice with meat in, then a separate veg curry, you need both for it to be the complete dish otherwise you are just eating dry rice with meat in. OP is time to rethink this relationship, your partner sounds awful.