Should he go back for the rest of the takeaway

[Goinganonforthis]

Ordered Indian this evening, haven't had one in over 6 months. DH went to collect it, told him to check everything was in it. He didn't realise biryani comes with a separate sauce (or at least if he stopped to think about it, he does know this) so came home without the sauce for the biryani.Should he have gone back for it, 10 min drive? I had a glass of wine so couldn't get it. Wwyd in this case? Thanks.

I think this is relevant tbh. On its own its a minor annoyance, as part of a pattern its a final straw situation.

I remember having a huge argument with my ex when he ordered the wrong thing for me (had to go up to the counter to order) and when I asked him to amend it he said I should just be grateful he was getting me dinner and stop being a bitch. As annoying as getting the wrong meal was, it was his dismissive, combative attitude when being asked to consider me that was the real issue throughout the whole relationship.

I think biriyani sauce or not, this relationship isn’t working. Once contempt sets in there’s not much that can rescue it.

Yes, I’ve said I wouldn’t send him back but now we have more info I can see why OP isn’t happy. You deserve more than being told to fuck off and being treated with disdain, life is too short for this

Exactly what I was just about to say! I’d be far more concerned at my partner talking to me like that, than some missing sauce!

@Goinganonforthis what happened to the sauce if you started wolfing down before it came? Just asking as was going to advise sticking it in the freezer as a back up for future orders!

PS that’s bad of your OH. I wouldn’t stand for that.

Hope he had a vindaloo last night and today he has a burning ring of fire.

Get rid of him OP, don't let anyone speak to you like that. Selfish, horrible prick.

Men who "wolf" food make me queasy.

Men who tell their alleged partners to "fuck off" are abusive.

This is not about sauce.

He is unreasonable, and an arsehole.
You are unreasonable for calling it “sauce” and not “vegetable curry” 😁

Takeaways around here usually have your order bagged up for collection so I wouldn't normally check the order was all there. I might not realise there were only 3 containers in the bag, rather than 4 (assuming DH had rice and a curry and there were no side dishes). If DH never orders a biryiani it's also possible he wouldn't know the curry sauce is served separately. I don't think it would be easy to keep the meal hot while the missing item was collected and I might think it could be delivered quicker (10 minutes drive one way or return trip?). I would expect my DH to offer to go and get it but I would probably tell him to eat his first, while it's hot.

WTF? He told you to fuck off? Maybe im oversensitive but I would literally dump a partner for this.
What are his redeeming qualities?

This is not about the sauce. This is about the way he treats you. I would not give anyone a chance to treat me like that, or tell me to fuck off, twice.

You don't really need a sauce with biryani, biryani is a dry dish...YABU

Thank you all for the replies. He did apologise the next day but as I said, it's just another thing in a long line...it's given me food for thought!