Is this disrespectful or just different opinions?

[Gracyadms]

I’m in a relationship and I’ve been feeling off lately. One of my boyfriend’s female friends (who’s got a boyfriend herself) keeps posting really revealing photos online like full-on thirst traps. She’s part of his friend group, but I barely know her and honestly, it just makes me uncomfortable.

I told him how I felt, calmly, and didn’t even ask him to unfollow her. I just wanted some kind of reassurance or for him to get why it bothers me. But instead, he keeps saying stuff like “that’s her page” or “I don’t want to unfollow mates” like it’s all about his own comfort or values. He kept saying that we have different values and opinions and he can’t completely change who he is.

I’ve tried explaining how it makes me feel one too many times, but he always says I don’t understand, I’m pinning this on him, waiting for him to find a solution but what else can I do?

I’d really appreciate any help. Thanks

So, his mate is posting thirst traps, he’s not engaging with them in any way, but their very existence makes you insecure and you want him to understand…what, exactly? That you are painfully insecure?

And what do ‘comfort and values’ have to do with anything? Yours OR his. It is her page!

Are you okay?!

I'm totally with your boyfriend on this.

If she wants to post photos of herself she's entitled to.

And I'm sure even if she stopped tomorrow, he'd still be her friend so I don't see what difference the photos make to you?

How old are you both?

How long have they been friends?

Does she have a partner?

I dunno I think it’s quite weird that you are making such an issue about what someone else posts on their own profile. She’s not sending sexy photos to him.
I don’t really understand how you’re managing to make this about you or blaming your boyfriend?

”I’ve tried explaining how it makes me feel one too many times, but he always says I don’t understand, I’m pinning this on him, waiting for him to find a solution but what else can I do?”
Im with him, I can’t believe you’ve brought this up to him not once but multiple times. What are you expecting from him?

Alright I just wanted advice lol don’t be so brutal 😂😂

Boyfriend is right. You’re wrong. If you’re unhappy you should leave him.

Do I want to google thirst trap? It feels like key information.

“One of my boyfriend’s female friends (who’s got a boyfriend herself)” in the OP.

Riiiiight

So that's one answered..... and the others?

Humm, I deliberately don't follow friends who post provocative photos of themselves because they are my friends. I don't want to see them in minimal clothing is suggestive poses, that's not a part of friendship. So I think maybe I see you point a little. But that feeling would need to come from your partner, if he doesn't find it a little uncomfortable and isn't particularly engaging with the content either, then I don't see the problem really.

It’s the OP’s judgey way of saying the woman is posting pictures of her in a bikini and so on.

On her own personal Facebook or Instagram or whatever.

Nothing to do with the boyfriend. Just a woman posting what she wants online on her own social media.

But my god! What if her boyfriend’s eyeballs should look uponst them!!

i’m wondering also.

You either trust him or you don't. She can post what she want. Your insecurity aren't his problem or hers.

I took one for the team and googled it for you because I didn't know either.

It is, apparently, suggestive and provocative photos. I doubt she's leaving all that much to the imagination. If you get my drift.

Good on her though.

I'm 56 and I really wish I had more photos of me when I was younger and before peri-menopause made me barrel shaped 🤣

One thing the youth of today are not short of are photos of themselves.

Which is great.

Really?

I don't understand why so many women these days feel the need to objectify themselves with near naked photos.

Seems like desperate attention seeking to me.

Respectfully, if I had a boyfriend who wasn’t happy with a longstanding friendship, it would be the boyfriend who got the heave ho.

I still don’t get why ‘thirst trap’ means a provocative photo, though…

Thirsty = horny/ evidently 'up for it' eg "stop texting back so quickly you look well thirsty"

Trap you can figure out, eg "honeytrap"

What's a thirst trap?

He needs to dump you

Just a picture, could be selfie that has been labelled as attracting attention.

These thirst traps aren’t always pictures in minimal clothing btw

Women have been posing for thirst traps since the camera was invented. Betty Paige, Eva Garder, Marilyn Monroe… Playboy was created 72 years ago, it’s not a new thing is it?