Is this disrespectful or just different opinions?

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I’m in a relationship and I’ve been feeling off lately. One of my boyfriend’s female friends (who’s got a boyfriend herself) keeps posting really revealing photos online like full-on thirst traps. She’s part of his friend group, but I barely know her and honestly, it just makes me uncomfortable.

I told him how I felt, calmly, and didn’t even ask him to unfollow her. I just wanted some kind of reassurance or for him to get why it bothers me. But instead, he keeps saying stuff like “that’s her page” or “I don’t want to unfollow mates” like it’s all about his own comfort or values. He kept saying that we have different values and opinions and he can’t completely change who he is.

I’ve tried explaining how it makes me feel one too many times, but he always says I don’t understand, I’m pinning this on him, waiting for him to find a solution but what else can I do?

I’d really appreciate any help. Thanks

Loads of older men and women post these thirst traps, it isn’t an age thing. Martha Stewart posted one and she’s 84 as well as Lenny Kravis who is 61. David Beckham is always posted pictures in his pants and he’s 50. So seems as though the need for attention doesn’t die with age.

What’s Botox got to do with posting a picture of yourself? Very strange way of thinking.

Op imagine you had a very good platonic male friend who was in a relationship. If he was posting topless or gym photos on his own page would you be happy if your bf told you to delete his profile? People have a right to put up whatever they like on their own page.
You do seem a bit insecure and controlling.

Well you are right women have been objectified and exploited for a long time.
The very essence of Playboy was to sell women as sex objects.
And the women you mention were paid to pose for photos.
I'm surprised you don't mention Page 3 models.

These days so many women post near naked photos of themselves and walk around the streets half naked not because they are paid to do it but because they enjoy being objectified. They have a need for attention.

And the men that pose thirst traps? Surely they must be attention seeking and enjoy being objectified too? It’s summer, so a lot of men are walking around without tops on half naked, I assume also wanting to seen as sex object.

Must be a reason why David Beckham is always posting half naked pictures of himself and pictures in his pants. And no they aren’t always AD affiliated so he won’t be getting paid for some of them. So if it isn’t for money then he must be doing it for attention? And in the ads he does, he’s also agreeing to be sold as a sex object. So it works both ways doesn’t it.

Just feel pity for her that she needs the world's validation about her sexiness. There will always be a Katie Price around but I only feel sorry for their insecurity and need of male validation to the detriment of their own personal development which would give them the inner confidence they crave.

I find it refreshing that his friend has so much confidence. I do worrying that a lot of women these days seem to lack confidence in being able to post a nice picture of themselves through fear of judgement from others and by bitter comments. You see it a lot when a woman posts a picture or wears clothes that flatter their body that she’s somehow vain, insecure or needs male validation. It’s very sad that people are so blatantly jealous and probably wish they could do that themselves.

As long as he’s not saving the photos in his personal collection and commenting suggestive things, etc … it’s not a problem.

Oh my goodness David Beckham is totally in love with himself. Absolutely repulsive man.

But if you are trying to say the objectification and sexualisation of women and men are equal in society then that is so obviously not true.

It's a man's world. They are the ones with the power. And women willingly reducing themselves to the status of sex objects just plays into their hands.

So you've told him your opinion. He's told you his. You don't agree. Fine. Now what? You’re pissed off because he doesn’t agree with you? It’s not “disrespectful” to disagree with you.

What’s he supposed to do about this woman’s posts? What do you want him to do about it? He’s not controlling what she posts.

If my partner wanted to police which of my mates’ profiles I could follow I’d get rid of the partner not the mates.

You haven’t told him to unfollow but have discreetly told him all your thoughts on it in the hope he will unfollow and you are making him feel uncomfortable and guilty . If this was the other way around he would be called controlling. It’s your own insecurity that you need to work on I’m afraid .

Does it really affect your life if a woman decides to post a picture of herself on social media? No. So get over it. Not all woman are vulnerable and need to be protected from men. It’s that kind of mentality that gives me power.

The only women I know who constantly post 'provocative' pictures of themselves are desperate for validation and attention. I don't envy them or see them as a threat. I would get a hobby instead of obsessing over her, insecurity is very unattractive.

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@Pingiop Thank you.