Is it normal for a ive in partner for a year staying at ex wifes house for a month ro visit his son

[annawaraynon]

I have 13 yr old son and i know what it is like to be a single mom and your child does not have regular visit nor even communication even if i want my son to connect his dad. So me , I am pushing my partner to have a video calls everyday make an alarm everyday so wont forget to call his 5 yr old son .So he is a military and he visiting his son just right now to US for a month staying at his ex-wifes place just the 3 of them. And i am saying again I have no problem him seeing son spending time with his in fact I am the one making sure he is doing it...its just that concerning to mem, him staying too long at his ex wifes house as vacation this is the first time he left since we live together but when we were friends it was different but i was even doubting that time when he visits spend 3 weeks . My priority is to support my partner, Its just hard and concerning ..how does they play , go to park ding all things together ,happy family infront of their child etc ..I am trying and will do my best to not to entertain this thoughts but in my opinion its concerning .But I have to trust him and support him. When he comes back to me after a month would it be the same?Or I have just to prepare myself and what could possibly happen .What are your thoughts about this?

Sorry, I’m confused…. Is he video calling the son or currently living there?

Oh sorry, I think I’ve got it…. You pushed the deadbeat dad to call his son ONCE a week. Now concerned his ex who he’s staying with will fall madly in love with him in her own home this coming month and he will leave you to be a happy family?
might do - if her standards are as low as yours.

So your partner has gone to visit his son in the US and is staying with his ex wife to do so?
Do you live in the UK? If so there's obviously a lot of travel involved so I can kind of understand why your partner would want to stay in the family home for his visit.

Do you have a concern that your partner is getting back together with his ex wife?

My first thought - does his wife know she is an ex-wife? It sounds like they are still married and he spends his leave with them.

Agree with @columnatedruinsdomino

We are in middle east but he has a one month vacation, and he just left earlier to visit his son and stay at ex-wife house just the 3 of them for a month. I understand he is a parent I am having hard time to understand he needs to stay full one month with the ex wife house. But I have to understand him

Do you agree with @columnatedruinsdominothat he could be leading a double life?

LTB

I do not t think you do or understand what I just said. he video calls him everyday with the son, i have no problem with that I admire him that ,have time to talk to his son ,and remind him if sometimes i didnt hear him talking to him ..when the wife is in the conversation video call and i am left out i just leave until his done videocalls .But lately before he left the ex wife always in the video call He does not even introduce me to his son nor ex wife.in the one year since we move in .But now he left for a month and stay at ex wife house the 3 of them ..its just felt weird, thats all.Is it wrong to feel how I feel..I dont expect him to understand or agree on how i feel but has to respect how i feel about it.

Whats LTB ? Sorry its my first time to join in this community or forum..I have no one to talk to. .and ive been reading googling qoura digest.. if im wrong on how i fell.

@annawaraynonLTB means ‘leave the bastard’

@alcoholnightmare oh

@its2025 not sure ..i am confused what is happening

A month?! Yeah he is going back to happy families, and telling his wife he is on deployment for the time he is with you. Sorry.

Is he actually divorced?

If he hasn't told them about you in a whole year then chances are he's not gone for a visit, he's gone home on leave.

@SixteenClovesOfGarlic yes because i ask to see his divorce paper.

this is one of my concerns? doubts?

She is not his ex-wife.

You are the Other Woman he's fooling around with while he is away working in the middle east.

He needed pushing to keep up a video call routine, he's no prize.

I fear this is the case.
I'm sorry.

Anybody could design a fake one of those and print it out if they have access to a computer for an hour or two.

Surely the real issue here is that you don't trust him? Whether he is or isn't is irrelevant. Listen to your instinct.

What exactly do you find attractive about a man that you have to continually remind to have contact with his 5 year old son?

@GardenGaff sorry let me rephrase it...i do not have to remind him he does it actually without me telling or reminding him...but me making sure he got time and spend time to talk to him.