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Does your husband take pictures with you

30 replies

Concertqueen · 24/06/2025 09:59

Just wondering what others in a Ltr are like?
I’ve had my phone for a year now and no pics of us or him.
we just returned from a lovely break away and he wouldn’t get any pics with me or kids.
He also never takes any himself.
I was left feeling quite silly / like a nuisance for wanting to take pics.

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tumblingdowntherabbithole · 24/06/2025 10:08

No - he hates his photo being taken. I think our last photo together was on our wedding day seven years ago 🤣

CiaoMeow · 24/06/2025 10:14

No, barely any pictures of us together or on our own. Doesn't bother me, though.

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Concertqueen · 24/06/2025 10:15

lol they must all be the same tho, annoying!

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Parky04 · 24/06/2025 10:17

He tends to allow me to take one selfie of us together when we go somewhere!

AnonAnonmystery · 24/06/2025 12:51

Not sure if this counts but I’ve been with my partner 5 years ( not married). We take alot of pictures together esp if away and it’s usually him that wants to take them. Or he wants to take some of me alone. He might be exception to the norm.
You are not being unreasonable in wanting to have pictures to mark memories together as a couple and as a family. Do you think you could talk to him one evening and mention how nice it would be to have some pictures together? Is there any reason he dislikes them so much. From my personal experience I don’t like pictures much due to my own personal hang ups but I am grateful for them.

WrylyAmused · 24/06/2025 13:08

He likes them, I'm the one who refuses. 5yrs in and he still has no pictures of me/us. Lots of him and his DC.

Some of us just don't like them.
It's nothing personal.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 24/06/2025 13:13

Yes, he loves pictures. He's our group selfie taker and he's really good at making sure we have photos of holidays and events.

My friend's husband is really good at this too and he makes us a calendar of our funniest pics as a Christmas present every year.

Nicflowers82 · 24/06/2025 13:16

My DH is like this too. I hate feeling like a nuisance. I am not over the top , I just like to have a few nice photos and memories ! DCs are teens and now taking after him and not liking their photo taken either 😩😩😩

Berlinlover · 24/06/2025 13:16

My partner always wants photos of us together when we go somewhere. I find it a bit needy to be honest.

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Concertqueen · 24/06/2025 13:17

That’s so nice @HighLadyofTheNightCourt

I don’t know what it is it’s annoying though
he acts like I’m getting in peoples way aswel when stopping for a pic but where we went everyone was taking pics

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PopThatBench · 24/06/2025 13:18

No, his photo album on his phone is 99% photos of his job and 1% photos he’s saved that I’ve sent him.
I have hundred of photos of him and the kids, absolutely none of me with the kids or him 😂

Bjorkdidit · 24/06/2025 13:18

Is this a new thing? We were in Mallorca last week and it seemed that every time a 20/30 something couple arrived at the beach, pool, restaurant etc, they went through a routine where she posed and he took pictures.

I was especially irritated by the couple who did this for at least 10 minutes in a variety of poses while ignoring their primary age DD, who wandered off, clearly used to it. They also continued to ignore her when she wanted to show them the bits of sea glass she had collected.

SantiagoShaming · 24/06/2025 13:19

This is me in my relationship—and my life in general! I absolutely hate my photo being taken.

TBH, I always forget to take pictures, I don’t even think of it. Most of my camera roll is either pictures of buildings (I love interesting architecture), pictures of DC or DN and screenshots. 😆

DappledThings · 24/06/2025 13:20

He'd like to but I don't really like being in pictures. I have loads of the kids, not many of us. Holiday photos I prefer the scenery or buildings or whatever sights we are seeing with no people in at all.

SantiagoShaming · 24/06/2025 13:22

Bjorkdidit · 24/06/2025 13:18

Is this a new thing? We were in Mallorca last week and it seemed that every time a 20/30 something couple arrived at the beach, pool, restaurant etc, they went through a routine where she posed and he took pictures.

I was especially irritated by the couple who did this for at least 10 minutes in a variety of poses while ignoring their primary age DD, who wandered off, clearly used to it. They also continued to ignore her when she wanted to show them the bits of sea glass she had collected.

Agree on this. I get second-hand embarrassment for these sorts of people. It comes across as so vain and self-absorbed.

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Concertqueen · 24/06/2025 13:27

No I’m not talking about being this extreme, we’re not young it’s not for instagram or whatever, and I do love pictures of scenery too. This is not what I’m talking about

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Daisyvodka · 24/06/2025 13:43

I used to think that its absolutely up to the individual and its got nothing to do with anyone else, until I met a man whose father had died when he was 5 and he had one single photo of him, that wasn't quite in focus and not taken very close up.
I also see a lot of women sad that they dont have any pictures of their family, or pictures of them with their kids, and their partner shrugs and says 'I hate having my photo taken/I dont think of taking photos' and i always think how mean of them, to not do one small thing for their partner that would mean so much to them once in a while. It doesn't need to be every time you leave the house, but my friends partner refuses to be in any photos (other than group shots at football...) and makes a joke out of it when it makes her so sad, 5 years and I just think would it really bloody kill you to take one picture? If someone wants constant photos thats totally different.

Rabbitsockpeony · 24/06/2025 14:48

Bigamist.

DuckieDodgyHedgyPiggy · 24/06/2025 14:58

It's long been a joke in our family that there are no people in DH's photos. Once on holiday he was taking pictures of plants, and DD and I positioned ourselves either side of a flower and insisted he take the picture with us in it.
If you want a picture of the two of you, set it up - get someone to take it. Tell him that it's important to you. I do treasure the few pics I have of the two of us. Edited to say, he's got better at remembering to take them, over the years. So there's hope!

GonnaeNoDaeThatJustGonnaeNo · 24/06/2025 15:12

Yes but he hates it and does it under protest

mondaytosunday · 24/06/2025 15:32

There a gazillions pics of my kids. There’s a quarter gazillion pics of my DH with and without kids. There’s maybe a handful of me and kids, maybe two of me and DH. Why? Because I take the photos and I’m with the kids a lot more than he is. Even in the hospital the photos DH took of me and newborn are a bit blurry.

SantasLargerHelper · 24/06/2025 15:41

He will cheerfully pose for photos with me. I think it's nice to have photos of us together. We are middle aged though so really bad at selfies..... I think we need to go on a course to learn the best angles.

ClareBlue · 24/06/2025 20:20

If you are on holiday look around for influencers doing their shots. Then ask them to take one of you as a couple. They love it as they boss you around to get the perfect picture and take it very seriously and as a reflection on themselves. We got bossed around in Montenegro but the pictures are great. Last week we got moved across the front of a castle in Prague to get better lighting by a Japanese influencer. The pictures are great, tbh😂

Theory5 · 24/06/2025 23:09

Mine hates them and hates every thing about posting them on SM too so we never have any. He has no SM and doesn’t like it at all.

SantasLargerHelper · 24/06/2025 23:37

ClareBlue · 24/06/2025 20:20

If you are on holiday look around for influencers doing their shots. Then ask them to take one of you as a couple. They love it as they boss you around to get the perfect picture and take it very seriously and as a reflection on themselves. We got bossed around in Montenegro but the pictures are great. Last week we got moved across the front of a castle in Prague to get better lighting by a Japanese influencer. The pictures are great, tbh😂

Yes same here on a girls trip to majorca this weekend. She took loads in different places and they're brilliant.